Do you feel like by the time the morning rush is over you're ready to crawl back into bed? A recent study has found that 59% of mothers feel tired 'all the time'. Many admitted to feeling stressed, missing sleep and skipping meals. The morning time when you've got littles can be stressful and crazy. It's all too easy to roll out of bed bleary-eyed to the sound of crying and then instantly enter 'survival mode'. That's why my morning routine is without a doubt the most important part of my day.
If I don't take some time first thing when I get up to get myself prepared mentally and physically for the day, I just kind of... suck. It has taken a LOT of trial and error to figure out what I need to get out of my morning, and a LOT of slowly transitioning myself into being a morning person. In addition, my morning routine will probably change as more babies and more work and more of life get thrown at me.
Read on to find out how to have a calm start to the day - trust me, it'll change your life!
Consider Getting Up BEFORE Your Children
I know, I know, I know. I'm basically shouting curse words at you right now. But I you can, I would HIGHLY recommend setting the alarm so that you have some time before your kids wake up. Picture this: A quiet house. There is a steaming cup of coffee on the table that you can actually enjoy hot. You have some time to read or pray or journal. No one is calling you or asking you to get this bit of gum out of their hair that they somehow slept on.
Use That Picture As Motivation
As much as it may be difficult to pull yourself out of bed earlier than you HAVE to, keep that picture in your mind. Use it as a bit of inspiration and motivation. Think to yourself... 'If I don't get up right now I'm going to miss out on that me-time'. In order to have a successful morning routine, you need to actually give yourself the time and the opportunity to have a routine in place. The thing with being a mama is that you very rarely have time to yourself, therefore the morning is a crucial opportunity to look after yourself. If you don't, how the heck are you meant to look after your family?
Prep The Night Before
A good morning routine starts the night before. Short of sleeping in tomorrow's clothing, you should have everything prepared for the following day before you go to bed. Have bags packed, outfits laid out, lunches made and alarms set. Make sure you have checked the calendar so you know exactly what is on the agenda, and make your job in the mornings as easy as you possibly can. That way when you go to head out of the door in the morning all you have to grab is your bag (which has been helpfully placed next to the door) and you're good to go.
Write A List
Particularly when you're first starting out with a new morning routine it can be extremely helpful to write down what you want to get done. You could even write times next to each item so that you have a guide of how long you should be spending doing each thing. No more getting distracted reading your book and then realising you need to be out of the door in 5 minutes! This tip can also work for kids! Just pin a chart up on their wall that they can tick off when they have brushed their teeth, made their bed, got dressed etc.
Morning Time Is Family Time
If you're rushing around like a mad woman in the morning, you're missing out on one of the best bits - family time! Slow down a little and take the time to enjoy your kids before they shoot off to school. Actually sit down and eat breakfast as a family (which is made all the more easy when you prep the night before like we've already discussed!) My rule is the second my daughter wakes up I will stop whatever I am doing (besides peeing - that I can finish haha) and go and give her snuggles.
Put Some Beats On
It is a well-known fact that upbeat music can wake you up and lift your spirits. Try playing your favourite tunes - preferably happy, get-up-and-dance type tunes - and having a boogie with your kids. It will be a great memory that they will always look back on. It's much better to be the crazy mama who danced in the mornings than the stressed out mama who rushes everyone out of the door the second they wake up.
Learn From The Best
I've really struggled to prioritise my mornings in the past. It wasn't until I took Crystal Paine's Make Over Your Mornings course that I really began to make the most of those early hours. This lady is THE QUEEN of morning routines. If you are looking to really nail your mornings and create an intentional routine that is moulded specifically for you and your family, you will absolutely love this course! If you’d like to purchase it and create your own kick-butt morning routine you can do so by clicking on the link below. I don’t promote anything I don’t truly believe in, and I can promise you that it has completely changed the way I look at my mornings. I would 100% recommend trying it out.
So, what does my morning routine with my eleven-month-old look like?
- I get woken up by my beautiful daughter at about 7 am. Sometimes it's earlier and very rarely it's later (it's a good day if it's later!). I used to get up before her and my husband when she was a tiny baby because she would sleep until about 9 am and I absolutely loved having some time to myself before entering 'mama mode'. Now that she's waking earlier, is a lot more of a handful AND I'm back at my full-time job, I make sure to get every second of sleep that I can.
- As soon as I wake up I change Élise's bum. I then take her into the living room and let her play with some toys while I make myself some much-needed coffee. Coffee is my friend. I love coffee. A lot. I then like to watch YouTube videos (though at the moment I am watching Crystal Paine's Make Over Your Mornings E-Course instead) for as long as bubba is happy playing. I also get my to-do list written while I'm in full on motivated mode. If I leave it too long, it just doesn't happen.
- After ten to fifteen minutes bubba is about ready for her breakfast. I make her up some porridge and I try to remember to eat myself as well. I've gone far too long skipping breakfast, and it's really not good for my metabolism. A favourite breakfast of mine is greek yoghurt with granola, berries and honey. Nom! I pop Élise into her highchair and feed her with one hand and myself with the other. Mamas are amazing multi-taskers, don't ya know?
- After breakfast we have playtime. This is my favourite part of the morning because I can see the cogs turning in her little head as she explores things with me. It's our little mama-daughter time, and it is priceless. Once I feel like I have spent a good amount of time playing with her, I'll set a timer for 20 minutes on my phone. This motivates me to get my chores done. I basically try to beat the clock and get as much done as possible in that short amount of time. Just 20 minutes of cleaning is a whole lot less intimidating than the thought of cleaning the whole house.
- Finally, it's time for bubba's nap at about 11 am. I'll give her a bottle of milk and put her down, which then gives me an opportunity to tidy up the mess that she inevitably has made. I'll then wash up from breakfast, get myself washed and dressed and then, if I'm lucky, I'll have enough time for a cuppa tea before she wakes.
Fancy seeing it in action? Well, that's good because I made a video just for you!
Now It's Your Turn!
I want to know what YOUR morning routine looks like. Share what you do in the morning below for a chance to be featured in a blog post! Let me know what you do to ensure your morning runs smoothly, and how often it actually goes as planned. I look forward to hearing from you! Now it's time for me to go and make another cup of coffee. Becca, out!