10 Steps To Work / Life Balance – Is It Even Possible?

10 Steps To Work / Life Balance – Is It Even Possible?

10 Steps To Work / Life Balance – Is It Even Possible?

Whether you work outside the home in a corporate career, or inside the home as a mamapreneur, work-life balance is something that we all seem to be striving for.

It’s that mirage in  the desert, that oasis, that faraway glimmer of hope in every stressed out mother’s eye.

So, naturally, the question a lot of working mothers find themselves asking is… “Is work-life balance even possible? And if it is… how the heck do I achieve it?!”

Yes, even I have found myself uttering these very words.

 

There is a lot of disagreement about whether or not true work-life balance is actually achievable, but I am a hopeful person and I choose to live in a world where the possibilities are endless. I believe I can do anything if I really put my mind to it, and where there’s a will there’s a way.

I have chosen to ignore the belief that we have to choose between being a career woman and being a mother.

 

A lot of people try to tell you that you have to get your career sorted before you have kids, and a lot of women are indeed putting off having children because they want to focus on their careers first.

Now, if that’s something that you want to do and your career is the main priority, then more power to you, but what I don’t appreciate is women like me who have chosen to have kids at a younger age being made to feel like they have screwed up their lives.

We’re made to feel like we’ve had to give up our careers and our ambitions because we are now mothers. The world is meant to be progressing and modernising. We’re living in an age of political correctness and equality, and yet we are still being made to feel like those top level promotions and top levels of success are out of our reach.

The other worry for many women is that they cannot be an effective mother if they are working. They feel like if they are going out to work then they aren’t going to be as good a mother as someone who is home all day with their kids. Well ladies, I’m here to tell you that both of these beliefs are lies.

It is 100% possible to be a career woman and be a mother.

Sure, it’s not always going to be easy, but what part of motherhood is? I honestly believe that work-life balance is possible. I believe that you can reach whatever goals you may have set for yourself career-wise, and also be a fantastic mother. There just may be some shifting and adjustments that need to happen.

I also recorded this blog post as an audio podcast. Click play below to listen!

by HIA #2: 10 Steps To Work / Life Balance - Is It Even Possible? | The Homemakers In Action Podcast

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I am living proof that it is possible to get a work / life balance. I have a job outside of the home where I am often finishing work at 2am, or looking after my daughter all day and then going to work once she’s in bed. I also run this business from home, and as if that wasn’t enough I also do some virtual assisting work for other companies. Yes, I do have days where I fall out of balance and I can sense myself spending too much time on my work (or sometimes not enough time on my work), but I always manage to bring it back to centre when I am feeling off balance.

So, how exactly do I manage it? I have a few top tips for anyone who is really struggling to find that balance and feels like they are either spending too much time on their careers and not enough time with their families, or that they’re spending so much time focusing on their kids that they are falling behind in their jobs.

1) SHUT OUT NEGATIVITY

This includes both the voices in your head that are telling you that you just can’t do it, and also any external sources of negativity that you have going on. Maybe your friends or your boss or even your husband are telling you that they don’t think you can handle it? If you have people in your life, even virtual people on social media, who are not being supportive and are breathing negativity into your life, just shut it out.

I actually like to use negativity to push myself even harder. If someone tells me I can’t do something that then spurs me on to work even harder to prove them wrong. If someone is telling you they don’t think you have what it takes to get that promotion or to start up that business, show them that you can do it.

ACTION STEP: Shut out any negative voices, whether they are in your head or external.

 

2) BE PRESENT WHEN YOU’RE AT HOME

When you’re not working and you have taken time off away from your desk to be with your family, make sure you are really with them. Don’t be responding to emails. Don’t be answering phone calls from people at work. Don’t be worrying about the next thing that you need to do in your business. Be present with your family when it comes to that time. Let them know that when you’re finished with work that is their focused time with you.

The best way to do this is to decide on a time when you are going to finish work, and when that time comes turn your computer and even your phone off. That way you won’t be tempted to check your notifications or see if you have any new messages. Anyone who needs to reach you can wait. At that moment, your family is the priority.

ACTION STEP: When you finish work shut off your computer and phone, and focus completely on your family.

 

3) FULLY COMMIT WHEN YOU ARE AT WORK

As a mother you may not have as much time to get all your work done as someone without kids, which means you have to be really intentional and clever with how you use your time. When you’re at work or you’re sitting down to work on your business, you need to be there 100%. You need to be putting in the maximum effort and getting the most out of the time that you’re working.

As difficult as it is to switch off from your family, try not to be distracted while you’re at work. If you’re in a corporate job resist the temptation to text your husband or the babysitter every half an hour to make sure the kids are okay, as it will pull your focus. If you work from home, use nap times so that you’re not distracted by the baby, or if your kids are older see if you can get them settled down with a ‘quiet time’ activity. Explain to them that now is mummy’s time to work, and if they’re good and let you focus you’ll be able to spend lots of time playing with them after you’ve finished.

Another tip is to write out a to-do list for your work day. Those are the things that you need to achieve before you leave work that day.

ACTION STEP: Create a to-do list for your work day and put in the maximum effort to complete this list by the time you finish.

 

4) HAVE A VARIETY OF ROUTINES IN PLACE

When you’re a working mother your schedule can change a lot. If you have a routine for the days when you’re at home and you don’t have any work to be doing, it’s not really going to apply for those days when you do have work. So try creating a routine for your days off, and then also a routine for your work day, and if you have a varying schedule like I do you may want to create a different routine for each type of work day.

What this does is it helps you to stay on track. Your routine won’t be thrown out of the window when you’ve got to work because you’ve got that routine already in place. You’ll still be able to do your housework and spend time with your husband and kids, but it may look a little bit different to those days when you’re home all day with no work to do.

This tip also works really well for those days when you have something different going on, like Church on Sundays or your child’s sporting activities.

ACTION STEP: Create a few different routines for different scenarios and work days.

 

5) CONSTANTLY RE-EVALUATE YOUR LIFE BALANCE

There are going to be times when you fall out of balance. There’s nothing you can do about it. Unfortunately things will come up in your work life where you do need to spend a bit more time working. Maybe you’ve got a big project on, or a tight deadline, or a potential promotion coming up. When there are more things clamouring for your attention, it’s highly likely that you’ll start to feel yourself falling out of balance. The important thing is that you recognise this and are able to bring your life back into balance after that period of busyness has passed.

The way to do this is to constantly re-evaluate. At least once a month (but ideally weekly) sit down and have a look at how you are spending your time. On an average day, how much time are you spending on the following things:

  • Work
  • Family
  • Home (cleaning, cooking, tidying etc)
  • Faith
  • Exercise
  • Self-Care
  • Friends
  • Hobbies
  • Daily (eating, general hygiene, getting dressed etc)
  • Sleep

Once you’ve taken stock of your average day, look at it and ask yourself if it is balanced. Are you spending enough time on each of these areas of your life?

ACTION STEP: Get out a piece of paper (or print out the PDF that I have created for you below) and start evaluating how you are spending your time on an average day.

6) PLAN AHEAD

This is important for everyone, but especially working mothers. If you can get yourself prepped and ready the night before, your tomorrow is going to go so much smoother. If you get your bags packed and lunches made and outfits laid out ready, that’s one less thing you need to think about in the morning. You’re going to be far less stressed out which, in turn, means you’ll be able to spend more quality time with your kids in the morning. Imagine having time to sit down and read the Bible with them or snuggle on the sofa with them, instead of rushing around trying to get lunches sorted. That’s what evening prep can do for you.

If you’re a stressed out, frazzled mess in the mornings and you’re barely saying good morning to your kids, I highly encourage you to make sure you’re as planned and prepared as possible the night before.

ACTION STEP: Start prepping and planning as much as you can the night before.

 

7) SAY GOODBYE TO THE GUILT

Mum guilt hits us all in one way or another, but for working mothers it can sometimes feel unbearable.

“Am I abandoning my kids?”

“Will they think I don’t love them?”

“Will they love the babysitter more than me?”

“I should be playing with them instead of staring at a computer screen!”

These are all worries that can go through our heads. You’re going to feel guilty at times. It’s a natural thing that creeps up into every mother’s mind. But I want to encourage you to think of that guilt as one of those negative voices that we switched off in step one.

At the end of the day, if you’re working on a business or going out to work, you’re doing what’s best for your kids and your particular family’s circumstances. You’re bringing in an income. You’re providing for them. You’re letting them see what hard work is all about and teaching them the value of money. If your work is something you’re truly passionate about you’re going to be a better mother for doing it. The last thing you want is to resent your kids for making you give up your dreams. Pursue the things you’re passionate about and don’t let anyone tell you that you should feel guilty for doing that. As long as your kids are loved for and cared for, that’s all that matters.

ACTION STEP: Write down all the good things about your work life and why it’s important to you.

 

8) ASK FOR HELP

Please, please, please don’t feel bad about getting a babysitter when you need one. If your mum can come round and watch the kids while you get a couple of hours work done, they’re not going to feel neglected. They’re going to be excited that nanny is round playing with them!

If you need help, ask for it. Maybe you don’t need a babysitter, maybe you need help with a project at work. Consider delegating some things to others if you just have too much to do. Give yourself the grace to ask for help. And remember, you can always ask the Lord for help. He is there for you and He will provide for you.

ACTION STEP: Think about what you need help with and ask for it.

 

9) SAY NO TO WORK PROJECTS THAT YOU DON’T HAVE TO DO

If a project or opportunity comes up that you don’t really need to do and it’s not going to massively benefit you or further your career, don’t feel bad about turning it down. If it’s too much for you, explain to your boss that you’re not going to have the time and maybe he’d be better off asking someone else. If it’s your own business and you’re putting expectations onto yourself, it’s okay to decide that you’re too busy for a certain project at the moment.

When you start saying no to the unimportant things that crop up, it frees up your time so that you can really focus on completing the projects that you already have and doing them to the best of your ability. It’s far better to get one amazing project finished than to have million of half-finished projects that aren’t your best work.

ACTION STEP: Next time a project or opportunity comes up, really think about whether or not it is worth it and necessary for you.

 

10) REMEMBER THAT BUSINESS MEETINGS AND DEADLINES CAN BE PUSHED BACK, BUT YOU CAN NEVER GET BACK TIME WITH YOUR KIDS.

That soccer practice that your child has invited you to – he’s never going to score that goal again. If your kid has invited you to a school play – they’re never going to perform in it again. The first steps or the first time they say ‘mama’ – that’s never going to happen again. If you miss them, that’s it, they’re gone. So try to put things into perspective when you’re trying to decide if your priority should be your kids or your business.

You’re kids don’t always have to come first. Sometimes you do genuinely need to spend time on your business or your work. But if you start to notice yourself focusing too much on work and not enough on your kids, just remember that that’s time you’re never going to get back. They’re only small for a really short amount of time. When your kids turn 18 and go off to college, you don’t want to be looking back and regretting the amount of time your spent during their childhood staring at a computer screen or putting in extra shifts at work.

You can always push deadlines back or re-schedule meetings. You can always spend a little bit longer trying to reach that goal in your business. But what you can’t do is get back that time with your kids.

ACTION STEP: Be really careful when choosing between work and life, and make sure you’re not choosing work too much.

That’s all for today. Don’t forget to grab your free work / life balance timecard and please do share a picture of your timecard with me over on Instagram. You can tag me @homemakersinaction or use the special hashtag #myhomeinaction 🙂

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How To Live With Intentionality

How To Live With Intentionality

How To Live With Intentionality

Intentionality is a phrase that gets thrown around a lot. So often we hear that we need to be ‘intentional’ with our time, but what does that actually mean?

Why is it important?

And what does living intentionally look like in our day to day lives?

Well, they are three very separate (but equally important) questions, and we are going to be diving deep into them today. Ladies, buckle your seat belts, we’re about to start living with purpose!

So firstly… what the heck is intentionality?

 

My definition goes as follows…

Being intentional with your time is about making choices for your life knowing WHY you’ve made those choices.

When you do go about your daily activities, you know exactly why you are doing them. In your mind you have made a choice to do those things based off of your values and priorities. It’s about making sure that everything you do is led by the things that are most important to you.

There’s a quote that I love by a lady called Annie Dillard that fits so perfectly with this topic, and I have it pinned up on my wall as a daily reminder of why I need to be living with intentionality. It goes like this…

“How we spend our days is how we spend our lives”

 

This quote helps me in a number of different ways. Firstly it reminds me that in those days where I feel bored and fed up of all the mundane, repetitive chores that I have to do, that life is made up of small moments. Yes, we may remember the big things. We may focus on the pillar moments of our life like getting married and having babies and buying a home. But in between all of those big moments, there are the everyday moments. The little insignificant pieces that act as the pages within the chapters of our book. If you think of your life like a timeline, you’ll realise that those big moments take up maybe 10% of your life. The other 90% is made up of the everyday stuff, which means those tiny little details are what makes your life. They are incredibly important, no matter how boring or mundane they may feel.

It’s also a massively convicting quote. If the way we spend our days defines how we spend our life, how often are we wasting those days on unimportant things? How often do you spend hours on end scrolling through social media or watching Netflix? We have such a short time on this Earth, and it could end at any moment, so we need to be making sure that we are not wasting our precious time.

I also recorded this blog post as an audio podcast. Click play below to listen!

by HIA #1: How To Live With Intentionality | The Homemakers In Action Podcast

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So by now you may be thinking… “Yep, that’s great Becca. I know I need to be living intentionally, I understand why it’s so important, but how the heck do I actually start to implement this into my life?” Have no fear my little cherub! I have four super simple steps that you can start taking today to start living with more intentionality.

STEP 1: DESIGN YOUR IDEAL DAY

I get my students to do this exercise in my program ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’ and it really is a beautiful exercise. It basically consists of sitting down and thinking about what your ideal day looks like. This is the day that if you were to live it every day for the rest of your life you would never get bored. It’s the day that would occur if everything went right for you, and there were no kids waking up sick, and no unexpected visitors, and no last-minute stresses. The day you would have if everything went exactly to plan.

Think about the following things…

  • What do you do when you wake up?
  • What do you spend your day doing?
  • What specific activities does your ideal day include (for example exercise or sitting at the table as a family to eat breakfast)?
  • What sort of food do you eat throughout the day?
  • Who do you spend your time with?
  • How do you tackle cleaning throughout the day? In one go or spread out?
  • How do you wind down at the end of the day?

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not naive. I know this isn’t realistic. We’re always going to have things that throw our day off track. You may get really close to your ideal day, but you’re never going to be in a situation where you are consistently achieving this day every single day. But that’s okay, that’s not the point of this exercise. The point is having an idea of what to strive for.

ACTION STEP: Get out a piece of paper (or print out the PDF that I have created for you below) and write down what your ideal day would look like.

STEP 2: BREAK IT DOWN INTO SMALL ACTIONABLE STEPS

Now we need to start thinking about how we’re going to take that idea of our ideal day, and actually start working towards it. Just as an example, say your ideal day includes exercise. What can you realistically do (emphasis on the word ‘realistically’ here) to incorporate exercise into your day? It needs to be something that you’ll easily be able to do every single day without any major push-back or struggle. Perhaps it means taking the pram out and going for a walk with baby, or doing ten minutes of yoga in the living room to a YouTube video.

There’s no point setting a goal that’s going to be unachievable (I don’t know about you, but going for an hour long jog is not realistic as a mother of a two year old!) Setting achievable, bite-sized steps will mean you’re less likely to come up with excuses and more likely to actually do it.

ACTION STEP: Break down your ideal day into actionable steps, pin it up somewhere that you will be able to see it, and start working through the steps on a daily basis.

 

STEP 3: EXPRESS GRATITUDE EVERY DAY

It is so important when we’re thinking about living intentionally to constantly remind ourselves of what we have and what we are grateful for. We can express gratitude in a number of ways…

  • You could start a gratitude diary and write down all the things you are thankful for
  • You could text a friend and thank them for something they have done for you
  • You could tell your husband you are grateful for everything he does for your family

And there are so many other ways to express gratitude. Try mixing it up and using a different method each day. It’s a fantastic habit to get into. Personally, I love taking a moment first thing in the morning to remember just how lucky I am to be alive, to be healthy, to have a roof over my head and to have access to education and the internet and opportunities.

STEP 4: TAKE A MOMENT TO REFLECT HALF WAY THROUGH THE DAY

You may have heard the concept of reviewing your day before you go to bed to reflect upon whether or not it was a successful day, but I say why wait until bedtime? Taking a couple of minutes to stop half way through the day (I like to do this when bubba goes down for her nap) and reflect upon your day so far will give you a massive head start. It will give you the opportunity to notice unproductive behaviour, and to do something about it while you still have a decent portion of the day left.

So, starting today, I want you to pick a time (set a reminder on your phone if needs be) to make yourself a cup of tea or coffee and sit down to reflect on your day. Ask yourself the following questions…

  • What has gone well today?
  • How am I getting on with my to do list?
  • Am I on track with what I wanted to accomplish today?
  • Have I been making the most of my time today?

If the answer is no to the last two questions, now is not the time to berate yourself and make yourself feel bad. Instead, you need to be thinking about what you can do to change things for the afternoon. Giving yourself this reminder and mental ‘kick up the butt’ will stop you from having that guilty feeling when you go to bed and realise you’ve not got anything done.

ACTION STEP: Sit down with your favourite beverage half way through the day and reflect on how things are going so far. Then make a mental note of any changes you need to make for the afternoon.

So that’s it… super simple right? Think about your ideal day, come up with some realistic action steps that you can take each day to start working towards that ideal day, express gratitude and take a moment to reflect around lunch time. Don’t forget to grab your free intentional living worksheet that’s going to guide you through the process of breaking down your ideal day into those manageable chunks. You can get access to this and loads of other homemaking freebies by singing up right here.

A REALLY HONEST LOOK AT ‘FROM FRAZZLED TO FABULOUS’ (IS IT WORTH IT FOR ME?)

A REALLY HONEST LOOK AT ‘FROM FRAZZLED TO FABULOUS’ (IS IT WORTH IT FOR ME?)

A REALLY HONEST LOOK AT ‘FROM FRAZZLED TO FABULOUS’ (IS IT WORTH IT FOR ME?)

You may have noticed me talking a little bit (okay, a lot) about my brand new program ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’ lately. And I could go on all day about how I think it’s the best thing since sliced bread, but would you actually believe me? Probably not. Of course I’m going to say that about my own program.

So to be fair to you lovely ladies, I thought I’d write a quick blog post to help you decide whether the investment is REALLY worth it for you.

Because believe it or not, I’d rather not have loads of students enrolled if they aren’t going to actually get value from what I have to offer. I myself am crazy excited for the program, but it’s definitely not for everyone, and that’s okay 🙂

Read through this post, check out the details over on the main page and make an informed decision before you lay down any of your hard earned bucks.

Is FFTF really worth it?

Maybe. Some ladies have absolutely loved it and said that it has completely changed their lives. Others have come away from the program feeling less enthusiastic because it just wasn’t for them.

 

 

So, what actually IS the program?

It’s an online course that teaches busy mamas how to manage their time effectively, so that they can pursue their big goals without sacrificing time with their families. Through video lessons, PDFs, an online community and live one-on-one coaching, we will:

 

  • Set goals and priorities
  • Create routines and schedules
  • Set up a planning system with effective to-do lists
  • Clear the clutter from our homes and our minds
  • Learn housekeeping hacks to spend less time cleaning
  • Find new ways to spend time with our families, our faith and our passions
  • Discover how to make time to look after ourselves
  • Create an S.O.S kit for those days when we just don’t feel like adulting

 

The part that I get most excited about (and the part that the ladies who have taken the program said was their favourite) is setting a big goal and creating a 3 month plan to achieve it. We break the goal down into specific actionable steps, so that we are consistently moving towards it. It was so much fun seeing everyone make progress that they never thought they could make!

Okay, got that straight? An online course complete with private community and live one-on-one coaching, for the price of £97 / $126 (at the time of writing this post – prices are subject to change) So, is it right for YOU? Let’s figure that out…

 

Have you already got a planning system that you adore?

While this course does cover things like time saving hacks and de-cluttering, a huge part of the program is setting up a planning system with new routines and schedules. I suggest new ways to do things, and you NEED to be open to trying them out in order to get the most out of the program. If you don’t think you’d be open to change when it comes to your planning system, then it probably won’t be a perfect fit for you.

 

Have you just given birth?

If you are in those early days of breastfeeding and sleepless nights, then might I suggest you ignore this program for the time being. Let it go. This is not the time for you to be implementing new routines and strict schedules into your life. Those early days NEED to be led by baby. There will be other years.

 

Are you scared of missing out?

One thing I don’t want to happen is for people to enrol just because they don’t want to feel left out. I got a message from a lady the other day saying all of her friends were thinking about signing up but she wasn’t too keen on the idea. And you know what I said to her? Don’t feel like you have to follow the crowd. As I said before, I only want ladies in this program who really WANT to be there. Sure, I may lose a few bucks by not having someone enrol, but at least they’re not going to regret spending money on one of my products.

 

 

 

 

Do you hate watching videos?

Then I’ll be honest, this program probably isn’t for you. Although there are PDFs to work through, the bulk of this course is made up of video trainings and live coaching which is… guess what… in video format! If you’d rather read up on time management, there are tons of books out there that would be just perfect for you!

 

Can you commit to an hour and a half a week?

That’s roughly the amount of time this program will take you. Although you will have lifetime access when you join the program, so it’s not the end of the world if you fall behind, we will be going through it together in the community. To get the most out of the program you really want to be setting aside that hour and a half to work on your skills. Honestly ask yourself… Am I going to purchase this course and then never come back to it? The only way to truly see results is to put the work in, so just be aware of that.

 

Verdict:

If you love video trainings, are open to change and can commit to spending an hour and a half a week investing in yourself, then this program is 100% for you! But if that’s not you, move on. Don’t worry about what everyone else is doing. There will always be more resources out there that are more suited to you. Don’t fret, I won’t hate you if you don’t enrol! Promise! <3 The only thing I will say is if you do end up deciding it’s a good fit for you, commit to it. The more effort you put in, the more transformation you will see in your life.

 

 

And if you DO decide to enrol, here are the bonuses you’ll get…

 

 

 

The Home Management Binder by Homemaking Ministries (Value $19.95)
A beautiful binder to keep your home organised. It includes to-do list dockets, children’s chore charts, meal planning sheets, budget trackers, cleaning schedules, a prayer journal and much, much more.

 

 

5 Days To A Better Morning by Crystal Paine (Value $8)
From the creator of the hugely successful course ‘Make Over Your Mornings’ comes this wonderfully actionable eBook. Within ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’ we talk a lot about the importance of morning routines, and this book will help you to dive even deeper.

 

 

I hope you appreciate that I have been very open and honest in this post. I mean it when I say I don’t want people enrolling who don’t really want to be there. I’d rather have five super engaged students who really take the lessons and transform their lives, than a hundred ladies who enrolled without really thinking about it.

 

As always, if you have any questions at all about the program, you can email me at becca@homemakersinaction.com and I’ll get back to you as soon as possible!

5 Reasons to Get Excited for ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’

5 Reasons to Get Excited for ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’

5 Reasons to Get Excited for ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’

 

I can barely contain my excitement this week because I am officially announcing the project I have been working on for close to 6 months!

Doors for my brand new program ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’ will be opening on the 7th July!

I want to apologize in advance if you get a little bit sick of me talking about this program for the next few weeks, but I have basically poured everything I have into this and just from the testing I have done I can already tell it is going to be so much fun!

So, without further ado, I want to tell you all about it!

 

 

Too much to do and not enough time to do it in?

This is the problem I have heard screamed out by mothers all across the globe.   “There’s just too much to do! How can I possibly get it all done?!”   Stress. Chaos. Overwhelm. All feelings that can surface when you’re in the trenches of poopy bums and bottles and toddler tantrums and sulky teenagers. Honestly, I decided to create a program around this theme because it’s what I myself have seriously struggled with. I have craved balance… and now I’m finally at a point where I can achieve that most days. My life isn’t perfect by any means, but thanks to these strategies I now go to bed feeling accomplished and satisfied with what I have been able to achieve. So of course, I wanted to share those strategies with you…

5 Reasons to get excited for ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’

A step-by-step plan of action

There is SO much information out on the internet these days, and sometimes all those tips and tricks and hacks can actually make you feel even more overwhelmed. Sometimes what we need is a clear step-by-step plan to follow, that tells us exactly what we need to do and in what order, to get from Frazzled to Fabulous.

 

There are 6 amazing modules in this program that have been placed in a very particular order, so that you are laying the foundations for a less stressed life first, then are implementing a planning system and new routines, and finally you’re coming up with a back-up plan for when things go wrong. (Because what use is a routine if you can’t stick to it?!)

 

The modules:

  1. What should you be spending your time on? – Prioritizing
  2. De-clutter – Clearing space in your life for new goals
  3. Plan – Set up a planning system that works
  4. Think ahead – Prepare the night before with simple routines
  5. Make time for what matters most – Tips for making time for your passions, your family, your faith and yourself
  6. The only person standing in your way is you – What to do when you can feel yourself slipping into bad habits

You’ll have a whole community of amazing women to share this journey with!

Sticking with the techniques that you learn is the number one reason why people give up on programs like this. They’ll do really well for the first week or so, and then just kind of slip back into old habits. That won’t happen with ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’ because when you join you get access to a private Facebook community of women just like you, so that you can encourage, support and keep each other on track!

So if you’ve ever felt like you’re struggling all alone and that no one understands you, then this is your opportunity to be a part of a tight-knit group who understands EXACTLY what you are going through. I’ve seen some truly beautiful friendships blossom out of this group.


The best bit is, when you join ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’ you will get lifetime access to both the course and the group, so even if we are not technically going through the course together, you’ll still have that amazing support from the other ladies 365 days a year!

I’ll be in the trenches with you, guiding you every step of the way.

When I tested out this program I played with the idea of me actually being inside the Facebook group doing live chats, and maybe some one-on-one coaching. The feedback was amazing! The ladies in the group said it was as valuable, if not more so, than the course itself, because they weren’t just left with the videos to get on with it. They could ask me whatever questions they wanted, and I was providing personalised advice based on their own unique circumstances.

So whether you’re feeling camera ready and fancy coming on screen with me for some one-on-one coaching, or you’d rather just type your question into the comments, I’ll be there, holding your hand every step of the way. If you need more support, you’ll get it. If you have a problem that you can’t figure out, I’ll help you to make sense of it. If you can’t figure out a good routine, I’ll help you to create one that works.

 

There is no other way to get access to me like you will have in this program. Sure you can send me an email, and I’ll respond as quickly as I can, but I get hundreds of emails and social media messages every day so it might take me a while to get to you. If you’re in ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’ you will be getting the bulk of my attention, because I want to see you succeed and have an amazing family life!

Amazing bonuses!

This year I have some super exciting bonuses that you will get when you join ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’. These products were hand-picked by me because I know they will help you and you will absolutely love them. And the best bit? Because you’ll have lifetime access, it means you’ll get these bonuses plus any bonuses that I add on in future years. So with this one-off purchase you’ll get tons of free courses, eBooks and resources. It’ll be like a nice little present in your inbox every six months or so 🙂

Here’s what you’ll be getting this time. You’ll get a printable home management binder from Homemaking Ministries to organise everything in your home, from cleaning routines to finances, meal planning to birthdays. You’ll also get ‘5 Days To A Better Morning’ – an eBook by Crystal Paine, creator of the best-selling ‘Make Over Your Morning’ course. This book will go hand in hand with our ‘Think Ahead’ module, and will help you to craft a morning routine that refreshes you, revitalizes you and gets you ready for the day.

 

You’ll get both of these awesome bonuses FOR FREE when you join ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’ on the VIP level.

You’ll never get it this cheap again

Since this is the first time I’ll be launching this program, I am charging a low fee considering the content you’ll actually be getting (most coaches charge hundreds of dollars per hour for one-on-one coaching). But when I release it again, next year sometime, it’s going to be more expensive. So you’ll want to jump on board now while it’s still at it’s lowest ever price.

You have three options for pricing, and I did this so that the program could be accessible to ladies from all walks of life.

 

Option 1: VIP (one-off payment)

£97 (roughly $124)

 

This is the full blown course, complete with private Facebook community, live one-on-one coaching and bonuses. By paying fully in one go, you’ll be saving £23. If you want to get the most out of this program and have the advice tailored specifically to you and your family, this is the option I recommend.

 

Option 2: VIP (payment plan)

3 monthly payments of £40 (roughly $50)

 

Exactly the same as the one-off VIP option, except the payment is spread out over 3 months to make it easier on the wallet. One thing to note though is that the payment plan does work out slightly more expensive.

 

Option 3: Self-Study

£37 (roughly $47)

 

I added this option in for the ladies who just can’t stretch to the VIP levels. You’ll get full lifetime access to the course videos and PDFs, but you won’t have access to the Facebook community, live one-on-one coaching or bonuses. You’ll still get amazing value from the videos though, and as it’s self-study you’ll be able to go completely at your own pace.

 

These prices will only be accurate until 13th July! After that, they’re going up! Get on the waitlist now to make sure you get that special earlybird pricing 🙂

30 Time Management Tips For The Busy Mama

30 Time Management Tips For The Busy Mama

30 TIME MANAGEMENT TIPS FOR BUSY MAMAS

Life with kids can be unpredictable, messy, chaotic and just a tad stressful.

Sometimes it feels like there is just too much to do, and not enough time to do it in. It’s a common issue, but believe it or not there are ways that we can feel much more calm and balanced in our homes.

A lot of the time we make our lives more difficult, by not opting for the easiest and quickest option.

Here I have listed 50 of the very best time management tips that I could find, that will help you to get more stuff done in less time, and stop living in a constant state of overwhelm.

1. Decide if something is really necessary

Quite often we add a whole heap of unimportant things to our to-do list. Maybe it’s something that we want to do, or we feel like we should do, but really it just doesn’t need to be there. It might be nice to think about baking a cake from scratch for your one-year-old’s birthday, but are they really going to appreciate it? Are you doing it because you love to bake and it’s one of your passions, or are you doing it to try to impress someone? It’s time to get real with yourself and only put things on your to-do list that really need to be there. There is zero shame in buying a cake from the supermarket.

2. Think ahead

What can you do the night before that will make tomorrow easier? Maybe you could have all lunch boxes packed, or outfits laid out, or breakfast in the crock pot? Thinking ahead and preparing makes the morning time so much easier and less stressful. Even if you just take a couple of moments to look at the calendar and think ‘Okay, what do I need to get ready for tomorrow?’ it will help. No more getting to school and forgetting it’s wear-your-own-clothes day!

3. Use a filing cabinet

You know all those random bits of paper lying around? Yeah… they’re not helping anyone. Make it a rule that when you get paperwork of any kind, it either gets dealt with straight away, binned or put into a filing cabinet. Divide the cabinet up by categories like ‘school’, ‘taxes’ and ‘bills’ so that you can easily find what you’re looking for. I’d also suggest taking a look online to see if anything can be done digitally. Many banks offer internet banking now, and you’d be surprised how many instruction manuals are available as PDFs. The less physical paper clutter you have, the better.

4. Pick your battles

If you spent 5 minutes complaining about every little thing your family did to annoy you, I bet it would add up pretty quickly. Make the decision to pick your battles and not let every little thing bother you. Okay, so there’s a pair of dirty socks on the floor. Picking them up and putting them in the laundry basket may be a little bit annoying, but it will take 2 seconds in comparison to the long conversation about responsibilities and cleanliness that you’ll end up having. Save those conversations for the major stuff.

5. Multi-task

When you’re focusing on an important project I always suggest not multi-tasking and just staying focused on that one thing. But there are certain tasks that we tend to do on autopilot that we can easily multi-task during. Driving to work? Listen to an educational podcast or an audiobook. Folding laundry? Watch an episode of your favourite TV show while you do it. Instead of spending half an hour folding laundry and then half an hour watching TV later on, you’re getting both done in half the time. And let’s face it, watching TV makes folding laundry way more fun anyway.

6. Use a family calendar

Even if you’re more of a digital person, I still recommend having a tangible calendar that you can hang up somewhere for all the family to see. I have mine hanging next to the coffee machine so that every morning when me and my husband are making our coffee, we can check it. I love the calendars that have different columns for each family member. It just feels so much easier to see what everyone has going on and where there are going to be any potential clashes. Make sure once you have your calendar you are writing EVERYTHING down on it. That way you won’t get any nasty surprises.

7. Have a running grocery list

If you find yourself forgetting things when you sit down to write your grocery list, try having a running list pinned to your fridge. That way every time someone uses the last of something they can just write it onto the list. Ran out of washing up liquid? Write it on the list. Used the last of the pasta? Write it onto the list.

8. Ask for help

There is no shame in admitting you’re not supermama. If you’re getting super stressed out, ask for help! Whether it’s from a family member or a friend or even another mama from your baby group, just ask. Odds are they’ll be happy to help out, and you could swap favours. ‘I’ll watch your kid for two hours tomorrow if you come round and help me run some errands.’

9. Get your kids to help

Even the smallest of little helpers can still do a job. If you’re folding laundry, get them to fold some tea towels. It doesn’t matter if the don’t fold it perfectly… it’s a tea towel… and it’s teaching them good habits.

10. Get a whiteboard

Whiteboards are super helpful for writing little reminders to the family. Is it someone’s birthday today? Make sure your hubby and kids know that they need to ring and wish them a Happy Birthday. It’s so much less stressful when you don’t feel like everything is on your shoulders.

11. Assign things to specific days

If there is something that is particularly stressing you out, assign it to a day so that you can work on it each week. For me, that’s finances. I can never keep track unless I sit down with my banking and bills every single week and pop it all into a chart. So for me, finance day is Sunday. By having it on a specific day, it means I’ll never forget it.

12. Get your bags packed

Make sure that every morning (or the night before would be even better – see point 2) you have all bags packed and ready to go by the front door. That means making sure that all homework, gym kits, lunches, water bottles, everything that you will need for the day’s activities are all there ready. This applies to the parents as well as the kiddos. Say goodbye to the days of scrambling around the house looking for the car keys when you’re in a rush.

13. Automate whatever you can

Consider having your bills set as recurring payments so that they come out of your account automatically on a specific day of the month. Try a meal planning service so that you don’t have to think about what to have for dinner. Whatever you can set to happen ‘on auto-pilot’ – do it. The less you have to remember and think about, the better.

14. Buy gifts online

As much as you may enjoy the process of going out and getting a gift from a shop, online ordering is the way to go if you want to save time. No driving to the shop, finding a parking space, looking for the item, queuing up to pay, driving back home, packing, driving to the post office and finally getting it delivered. And you avoid the risk of getting to the shop and them not having what you wanted. The internet has an unlimited choice of gift options, and services like funkypigeon.com make sending cards a breeze (P.S. totally not sponsored by Funky Pigeon!)

15. A place for everything and everything in its place

Making sure you are putting things back in their rightful place when you are done with them ensures things won’t get lost. Searching for misplaced items is quite possibly one of the biggest time-sucks known to mamas.

16. Group things together

Have all of your sports gear in one drawer, and all of your work documents in one folder, and all of the out-of-season clothes in one wardrobe. It will make it so much easier to get everything together when the time comes for it.

17. Place a basket on the stairs

Every time you see something downstairs that should be upstairs, pop it into your basket. Then when you next go up the stairs you can just take the basket with you and quickly put everything away in its rightful place while you’re up there.

18. If something takes less than 5 minutes, just do it now

Rather than noticing a job that needs doing and thinking ‘I’ll do it later’, ask yourself how long it would take to just get it done now. If the answer is less than five minutes, then guess what? You should just get it done now. Putting things off just means that they will build up, whereas if you spend that five minutes getting the job done, it’s out of your mind and you can move on to the next thing.

19. Bulk cook

When you make a meal, double the portion and put half of it into the freezer. That way, next time you are in a pinch and need a quick and easy meal, you can just whip it out and reheat it. The freezer is one of a homemaker’s best friends.

20. Use your slow cooker

Another of a homemaker’s best friends. The slow cooker is an awesome way to make fabulous home cooked meal with minimal effort. Just chop up the food in the morning (or the night before – see point 2 again haha), pop it into the slow cooker and let it do its thang for the rest of the day. When dinner time comes you won’t even have to think about it. Plus, it saves on the washing up as you’ll only have to do one big pot.

21. Plan once a week

Choose which day is going to be your ‘planning day’ and take the time to sit down and plan out your week. Figure out who is going to be doing what on what day, what needs to be prepared for each activity, and what your to-do list is going to look like. It may take a little bit of time once a week, but it will save you so much time in the long run.

22. Check that the kids actually want to do their activities

Has your child always played football at school? It might be worth checking if they are actually still into it. Often kids won’t say if they’ve grown bored of something, and it might be an activity that you can scratch off of the calendar. So just check in every now and again.

23. Delegate

Do you have a bit of extra cash laying around? Rather than splurging on a new pair of shoes (because you know you already have way too many) consider hiring a cleaner to give your home a once over, or someone to do your ironing. It’s one job off your to-do list, and you don’t have to face the guilt of owning yet another pair of ridiculously overpriced shoes.

24.  Figure out your emergency contacts

Who can you call when your child is sick and needs picking up from school? Who will happily pop round to watch the baby while you nip out to the shop? Try to set yourself up with a decent support system so that when curve balls are inevitably thrown your way, you don’t have to have a panic attack.

25. Wake up earlier

I know, I know. No one wants to hear this one. But getting up even half an hour earlier can make a world of difference. You’d be surprised how much you can get done with just a little bit of extra time, especially if that time is before your kids have woken up.

26. Get into a routine

Routines aren’t just for babies. We as adults thrive on a good routine. Figure out what works for you and your family and STICK TO IT. Eventually things will start to happen on auto-pilot, and you’ll be amazed at how much you are consistently getting done. Not sure how to develop a good routine for yourself? Check out my free live training – How to create a homemaking routine and stop wasting time.

27. Get things done while you wait

If you’re sat in the waiting room at the doctor’s surgery, or waiting in the playground for your child to come out of school, have something in your bag that you can be getting on with while you wait. Maybe it’s your smartphone so that you can be answering emails, or that book that you’ve been meaning to finish. Waiting time does not equal wasted time.

28. Get more sleep

This may sound counterproductive to spend MORE time sleeping, but think about it. If you are shattered and are zombie-walking around the house dragging your feet, you’re not going to get much done are you. Whereas if you’re super energised, you’ll be raring to go and be ultra-productive. Getting more sleep will save you a lot of time in the long run.

29. Step away from social media

Nothing sucks more time than sitting and scrolling on social media. If you’re the sort of person who can spend whole hours pinning things and liking things on Facebook, then I encourage you to try to wean yourself off. There are so many better things you can be doing with your time. Try putting all your social media apps into one folder, and only allowing yourself to access that folder at a specific time of the day, for example after lunch for 20 minutes. Once the 20 minutes is up commit to closing out of that folder and not revisiting it.

30. Set a timer for chores

I’m a great believer in setting a timer for 30 minutes and blasting through your chores. There’s something about being on a countdown that makes you get things done so much quicker, and you’d be amazed at how much you can get done in 30 minutes. Don’t think about it too much, just move swiftly from room to room tidying and doing whatever chores need doing. In 30 minutes I can usually get all rooms tidied, beds made, floors hoovered or swept, washing up done and surfaces wiped down. Competition is always a great motivation tool, and there’s no harm in being in competition with yourself to see how much you can get done!

Dear Stressed Out Mama

Dear Stressed Out Mama

DEAR STRESSED OUT MAMA…

I’ve totally been where you are today. You’ve got a million and one things to do, you’ve got pressure coming from all sides to be the best parent you can possibly be, and all you really want to do is curl up on the sofa with a tub of Ben & Jerry’s and Netflix. More than anything…

You want to actually ENJOY your family!

You’re completely over that crappy feeling at the end of each day, wondering where the hell all those hours disappeared to and why you didn’t seem to get a single thing done.

You’re tired of constantly feeling busy and like there’s no time to even… ya know… shower.

Yep, I hear you. It sucks.

It’s one of the hardest things in the world to adjust to life as a parent, despite what anyone tells you. For the first time in your life you are expected to be selfless. You’re expected to take on the duties of chef, nurse, clown, maid, personal dresser, bank, life coach…

And sometimes, whether we like to admit it or not, we can’t start to feel a pinch of resentment about the fact that we can’t go out with our friends on Friday night, and we can’t join that yoga class as it’s the same time as the kids’ dance showcase, and we can’t start that side hustle we’ve been thinking about because… when the heck are we meant to work on them?!

 

And on top of EVERYTHING else, the mama-guilt will sure enough creep in to make us feel awful for having these feelings in the first place. I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve curled up in the corner of my bedroom crying my eyes out, wondering why I’m not enjoying motherhood more. After all, it was what I had wanted for so long!

What I came to learn was that I do enjoy motherhood. I love it more than anything I’ve ever done before. But there are hard days, and sometimes those hard days can just get a little bit too overwhelming. We all need a good cry every now and again, and that’s okay.

The good news is, there is hope for the stressed out mama!

It is totally possible to stop feeling overwhelmed and start to actually ENJOY your family life.

Because you know what I believe?

I believe that coming home should be something to look forward to, not something to dread.

I believe that life is too damned short to be riddled with constant distractions and hopping from task to task with no real results.

I believe that kids are blessings, not burdens.

And I believe that ANYONE can live a chilled out, happy, successful life, no matter how many toddlers you have tugging at your ankles.

Yep, that means YOU!

But don’t get me wrong, I know family life can be tough sometimes.

Kids are messy

Tantrums are regular

Marriages can run into obstacles

Calendars get filled to breaking point

And sometimes you just don’t feel like adulting.

Yep, I feel ya.

So often I have found myself wondering where all my time goes. Between my day job, this blog and YouTube channel, a side hustle as a virtual assistant, raising my daughter, spending time with my husband, spending time with my family, trying to keep my house clean and trying to catch up with my friends once in a while, I would often get to the end of a day where I have been moving non-stop and wondered what I had actually gotten done.

Rather than feeling like I was moving towards my goals, I felt like I was in limbo, merely surviving the day-to-day. And yes, I know it comes with the territory of being a mother. And I know I was kind of asking for it when I decided to start two businesses at the same time as working my day job. But what I don’t want to do is feel like I am spending all day putting out fires, but not spending any time on the things that truly matter to me.

I want to snuggle with my daughter and husband. I want to pamper myself every now and again. I want to watch a few episodes of my favourite TV show without feeling guilty. And I’m betting that’s what you want too mama.

What we all need is… balance

Ahhh balance. That word gets thrown around a lot huh? It feels like some sort of mythical phenomenon that we all want but really it’s impossible to achieve. Or is it?

I’ve spent a whole heap of time researching time management, productivity and balance. I’ve had to, otherwise I would have ended up in the nut house a long time ago! And what I’ve discovered is that actually there IS such a thing as real balance, and every mama can achieve it if they really know how. Now I’m not telling you you’re going to be able to do all of the things and do them all to 100% of your ability. But if you can figure out what is really important in your life, what REALLY matters, then there are ways to make sure those priorities are looked after.

So with this said, I want to invite you to download my free Time Management Toolkit.

 

Through trial and error, and a whole heap of crying in the corner, I’ve discovered some key techniques that really help me to feel like I am THRIVING rather than just surviving. There are 3 basic principles: identify your priorities, set goals, and come up with some routines and hacks to ensure you day runs smoothly. That’s it. It sounds simple really doesn’t it?

That’s because it is. Once these techniques are in your system you’ll start to feel more in control of your day. No, you won’t be able to do it all. But you’ll be able to do the important stuff well, and that includes shooting for those big dreams that you think you just don’t have time to pursue.

This toolkit includes a video training on goal setting with accompanying workbook, a morning and evening routines workbook, prayer hacks for fitting prayer time into your busy schedule, cheat sheets for cleaning and self-care, and 3 beautiful motivational art prints to hang on your wall and remind you of your goals. And yes, I’m giving it away FOR FREE!!!

Join me as we push through the chaos and the stress, and start living lives that we truly love.