A REALLY HONEST LOOK AT ‘FROM FRAZZLED TO FABULOUS’ (IS IT WORTH IT FOR ME?)

A REALLY HONEST LOOK AT ‘FROM FRAZZLED TO FABULOUS’ (IS IT WORTH IT FOR ME?)

A REALLY HONEST LOOK AT ‘FROM FRAZZLED TO FABULOUS’ (IS IT WORTH IT FOR ME?)

You may have noticed me talking a little bit (okay, a lot) about my brand new program ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’ lately. And I could go on all day about how I think it’s the best thing since sliced bread, but would you actually believe me? Probably not. Of course I’m going to say that about my own program.

So to be fair to you lovely ladies, I thought I’d write a quick blog post to help you decide whether the investment is REALLY worth it for you.

Because believe it or not, I’d rather not have loads of students enrolled if they aren’t going to actually get value from what I have to offer. I myself am crazy excited for the program, but it’s definitely not for everyone, and that’s okay 🙂

Read through this post, check out the details over on the main page and make an informed decision before you lay down any of your hard earned bucks.

Is FFTF really worth it?

Maybe. Some ladies have absolutely loved it and said that it has completely changed their lives. Others have come away from the program feeling less enthusiastic because it just wasn’t for them.

 

 

So, what actually IS the program?

It’s an online course that teaches busy mamas how to manage their time effectively, so that they can pursue their big goals without sacrificing time with their families. Through video lessons, PDFs, an online community and live one-on-one coaching, we will:

 

  • Set goals and priorities
  • Create routines and schedules
  • Set up a planning system with effective to-do lists
  • Clear the clutter from our homes and our minds
  • Learn housekeeping hacks to spend less time cleaning
  • Find new ways to spend time with our families, our faith and our passions
  • Discover how to make time to look after ourselves
  • Create an S.O.S kit for those days when we just don’t feel like adulting

 

The part that I get most excited about (and the part that the ladies who have taken the program said was their favourite) is setting a big goal and creating a 3 month plan to achieve it. We break the goal down into specific actionable steps, so that we are consistently moving towards it. It was so much fun seeing everyone make progress that they never thought they could make!

Okay, got that straight? An online course complete with private community and live one-on-one coaching, for the price of £97 / $126 (at the time of writing this post – prices are subject to change) So, is it right for YOU? Let’s figure that out…

 

Have you already got a planning system that you adore?

While this course does cover things like time saving hacks and de-cluttering, a huge part of the program is setting up a planning system with new routines and schedules. I suggest new ways to do things, and you NEED to be open to trying them out in order to get the most out of the program. If you don’t think you’d be open to change when it comes to your planning system, then it probably won’t be a perfect fit for you.

 

Have you just given birth?

If you are in those early days of breastfeeding and sleepless nights, then might I suggest you ignore this program for the time being. Let it go. This is not the time for you to be implementing new routines and strict schedules into your life. Those early days NEED to be led by baby. There will be other years.

 

Are you scared of missing out?

One thing I don’t want to happen is for people to enrol just because they don’t want to feel left out. I got a message from a lady the other day saying all of her friends were thinking about signing up but she wasn’t too keen on the idea. And you know what I said to her? Don’t feel like you have to follow the crowd. As I said before, I only want ladies in this program who really WANT to be there. Sure, I may lose a few bucks by not having someone enrol, but at least they’re not going to regret spending money on one of my products.

 

 

 

 

Do you hate watching videos?

Then I’ll be honest, this program probably isn’t for you. Although there are PDFs to work through, the bulk of this course is made up of video trainings and live coaching which is… guess what… in video format! If you’d rather read up on time management, there are tons of books out there that would be just perfect for you!

 

Can you commit to an hour and a half a week?

That’s roughly the amount of time this program will take you. Although you will have lifetime access when you join the program, so it’s not the end of the world if you fall behind, we will be going through it together in the community. To get the most out of the program you really want to be setting aside that hour and a half to work on your skills. Honestly ask yourself… Am I going to purchase this course and then never come back to it? The only way to truly see results is to put the work in, so just be aware of that.

 

Verdict:

If you love video trainings, are open to change and can commit to spending an hour and a half a week investing in yourself, then this program is 100% for you! But if that’s not you, move on. Don’t worry about what everyone else is doing. There will always be more resources out there that are more suited to you. Don’t fret, I won’t hate you if you don’t enrol! Promise! <3 The only thing I will say is if you do end up deciding it’s a good fit for you, commit to it. The more effort you put in, the more transformation you will see in your life.

 

 

And if you DO decide to enrol, here are the bonuses you’ll get…

 

 

 

The Home Management Binder by Homemaking Ministries (Value $19.95)
A beautiful binder to keep your home organised. It includes to-do list dockets, children’s chore charts, meal planning sheets, budget trackers, cleaning schedules, a prayer journal and much, much more.

 

 

5 Days To A Better Morning by Crystal Paine (Value $8)
From the creator of the hugely successful course ‘Make Over Your Mornings’ comes this wonderfully actionable eBook. Within ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’ we talk a lot about the importance of morning routines, and this book will help you to dive even deeper.

 

 

I hope you appreciate that I have been very open and honest in this post. I mean it when I say I don’t want people enrolling who don’t really want to be there. I’d rather have five super engaged students who really take the lessons and transform their lives, than a hundred ladies who enrolled without really thinking about it.

 

As always, if you have any questions at all about the program, you can email me at becca@homemakersinaction.com and I’ll get back to you as soon as possible!

5 Reasons to Get Excited for ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’

5 Reasons to Get Excited for ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’

5 Reasons to Get Excited for ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’

 

I can barely contain my excitement this week because I am officially announcing the project I have been working on for close to 6 months!

Doors for my brand new program ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’ will be opening on the 7th July!

I want to apologize in advance if you get a little bit sick of me talking about this program for the next few weeks, but I have basically poured everything I have into this and just from the testing I have done I can already tell it is going to be so much fun!

So, without further ado, I want to tell you all about it!

 

 

Too much to do and not enough time to do it in?

This is the problem I have heard screamed out by mothers all across the globe.   “There’s just too much to do! How can I possibly get it all done?!”   Stress. Chaos. Overwhelm. All feelings that can surface when you’re in the trenches of poopy bums and bottles and toddler tantrums and sulky teenagers. Honestly, I decided to create a program around this theme because it’s what I myself have seriously struggled with. I have craved balance… and now I’m finally at a point where I can achieve that most days. My life isn’t perfect by any means, but thanks to these strategies I now go to bed feeling accomplished and satisfied with what I have been able to achieve. So of course, I wanted to share those strategies with you…

5 Reasons to get excited for ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’

A step-by-step plan of action

There is SO much information out on the internet these days, and sometimes all those tips and tricks and hacks can actually make you feel even more overwhelmed. Sometimes what we need is a clear step-by-step plan to follow, that tells us exactly what we need to do and in what order, to get from Frazzled to Fabulous.

 

There are 6 amazing modules in this program that have been placed in a very particular order, so that you are laying the foundations for a less stressed life first, then are implementing a planning system and new routines, and finally you’re coming up with a back-up plan for when things go wrong. (Because what use is a routine if you can’t stick to it?!)

 

The modules:

  1. What should you be spending your time on? – Prioritizing
  2. De-clutter – Clearing space in your life for new goals
  3. Plan – Set up a planning system that works
  4. Think ahead – Prepare the night before with simple routines
  5. Make time for what matters most – Tips for making time for your passions, your family, your faith and yourself
  6. The only person standing in your way is you – What to do when you can feel yourself slipping into bad habits

You’ll have a whole community of amazing women to share this journey with!

Sticking with the techniques that you learn is the number one reason why people give up on programs like this. They’ll do really well for the first week or so, and then just kind of slip back into old habits. That won’t happen with ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’ because when you join you get access to a private Facebook community of women just like you, so that you can encourage, support and keep each other on track!

So if you’ve ever felt like you’re struggling all alone and that no one understands you, then this is your opportunity to be a part of a tight-knit group who understands EXACTLY what you are going through. I’ve seen some truly beautiful friendships blossom out of this group.


The best bit is, when you join ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’ you will get lifetime access to both the course and the group, so even if we are not technically going through the course together, you’ll still have that amazing support from the other ladies 365 days a year!

I’ll be in the trenches with you, guiding you every step of the way.

When I tested out this program I played with the idea of me actually being inside the Facebook group doing live chats, and maybe some one-on-one coaching. The feedback was amazing! The ladies in the group said it was as valuable, if not more so, than the course itself, because they weren’t just left with the videos to get on with it. They could ask me whatever questions they wanted, and I was providing personalised advice based on their own unique circumstances.

So whether you’re feeling camera ready and fancy coming on screen with me for some one-on-one coaching, or you’d rather just type your question into the comments, I’ll be there, holding your hand every step of the way. If you need more support, you’ll get it. If you have a problem that you can’t figure out, I’ll help you to make sense of it. If you can’t figure out a good routine, I’ll help you to create one that works.

 

There is no other way to get access to me like you will have in this program. Sure you can send me an email, and I’ll respond as quickly as I can, but I get hundreds of emails and social media messages every day so it might take me a while to get to you. If you’re in ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’ you will be getting the bulk of my attention, because I want to see you succeed and have an amazing family life!

Amazing bonuses!

This year I have some super exciting bonuses that you will get when you join ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’. These products were hand-picked by me because I know they will help you and you will absolutely love them. And the best bit? Because you’ll have lifetime access, it means you’ll get these bonuses plus any bonuses that I add on in future years. So with this one-off purchase you’ll get tons of free courses, eBooks and resources. It’ll be like a nice little present in your inbox every six months or so 🙂

Here’s what you’ll be getting this time. You’ll get a printable home management binder from Homemaking Ministries to organise everything in your home, from cleaning routines to finances, meal planning to birthdays. You’ll also get ‘5 Days To A Better Morning’ – an eBook by Crystal Paine, creator of the best-selling ‘Make Over Your Morning’ course. This book will go hand in hand with our ‘Think Ahead’ module, and will help you to craft a morning routine that refreshes you, revitalizes you and gets you ready for the day.

 

You’ll get both of these awesome bonuses FOR FREE when you join ‘From Frazzled To Fabulous’ on the VIP level.

You’ll never get it this cheap again

Since this is the first time I’ll be launching this program, I am charging a low fee considering the content you’ll actually be getting (most coaches charge hundreds of dollars per hour for one-on-one coaching). But when I release it again, next year sometime, it’s going to be more expensive. So you’ll want to jump on board now while it’s still at it’s lowest ever price.

You have three options for pricing, and I did this so that the program could be accessible to ladies from all walks of life.

 

Option 1: VIP (one-off payment)

£97 (roughly $124)

 

This is the full blown course, complete with private Facebook community, live one-on-one coaching and bonuses. By paying fully in one go, you’ll be saving £23. If you want to get the most out of this program and have the advice tailored specifically to you and your family, this is the option I recommend.

 

Option 2: VIP (payment plan)

3 monthly payments of £40 (roughly $50)

 

Exactly the same as the one-off VIP option, except the payment is spread out over 3 months to make it easier on the wallet. One thing to note though is that the payment plan does work out slightly more expensive.

 

Option 3: Self-Study

£37 (roughly $47)

 

I added this option in for the ladies who just can’t stretch to the VIP levels. You’ll get full lifetime access to the course videos and PDFs, but you won’t have access to the Facebook community, live one-on-one coaching or bonuses. You’ll still get amazing value from the videos though, and as it’s self-study you’ll be able to go completely at your own pace.

 

These prices will only be accurate until 13th July! After that, they’re going up! Get on the waitlist now to make sure you get that special earlybird pricing 🙂

30 Time Management Tips For The Busy Mama

30 Time Management Tips For The Busy Mama

30 TIME MANAGEMENT TIPS FOR BUSY MAMAS

Life with kids can be unpredictable, messy, chaotic and just a tad stressful.

Sometimes it feels like there is just too much to do, and not enough time to do it in. It’s a common issue, but believe it or not there are ways that we can feel much more calm and balanced in our homes.

A lot of the time we make our lives more difficult, by not opting for the easiest and quickest option.

Here I have listed 50 of the very best time management tips that I could find, that will help you to get more stuff done in less time, and stop living in a constant state of overwhelm.

1. Decide if something is really necessary

Quite often we add a whole heap of unimportant things to our to-do list. Maybe it’s something that we want to do, or we feel like we should do, but really it just doesn’t need to be there. It might be nice to think about baking a cake from scratch for your one-year-old’s birthday, but are they really going to appreciate it? Are you doing it because you love to bake and it’s one of your passions, or are you doing it to try to impress someone? It’s time to get real with yourself and only put things on your to-do list that really need to be there. There is zero shame in buying a cake from the supermarket.

2. Think ahead

What can you do the night before that will make tomorrow easier? Maybe you could have all lunch boxes packed, or outfits laid out, or breakfast in the crock pot? Thinking ahead and preparing makes the morning time so much easier and less stressful. Even if you just take a couple of moments to look at the calendar and think ‘Okay, what do I need to get ready for tomorrow?’ it will help. No more getting to school and forgetting it’s wear-your-own-clothes day!

3. Use a filing cabinet

You know all those random bits of paper lying around? Yeah… they’re not helping anyone. Make it a rule that when you get paperwork of any kind, it either gets dealt with straight away, binned or put into a filing cabinet. Divide the cabinet up by categories like ‘school’, ‘taxes’ and ‘bills’ so that you can easily find what you’re looking for. I’d also suggest taking a look online to see if anything can be done digitally. Many banks offer internet banking now, and you’d be surprised how many instruction manuals are available as PDFs. The less physical paper clutter you have, the better.

4. Pick your battles

If you spent 5 minutes complaining about every little thing your family did to annoy you, I bet it would add up pretty quickly. Make the decision to pick your battles and not let every little thing bother you. Okay, so there’s a pair of dirty socks on the floor. Picking them up and putting them in the laundry basket may be a little bit annoying, but it will take 2 seconds in comparison to the long conversation about responsibilities and cleanliness that you’ll end up having. Save those conversations for the major stuff.

5. Multi-task

When you’re focusing on an important project I always suggest not multi-tasking and just staying focused on that one thing. But there are certain tasks that we tend to do on autopilot that we can easily multi-task during. Driving to work? Listen to an educational podcast or an audiobook. Folding laundry? Watch an episode of your favourite TV show while you do it. Instead of spending half an hour folding laundry and then half an hour watching TV later on, you’re getting both done in half the time. And let’s face it, watching TV makes folding laundry way more fun anyway.

6. Use a family calendar

Even if you’re more of a digital person, I still recommend having a tangible calendar that you can hang up somewhere for all the family to see. I have mine hanging next to the coffee machine so that every morning when me and my husband are making our coffee, we can check it. I love the calendars that have different columns for each family member. It just feels so much easier to see what everyone has going on and where there are going to be any potential clashes. Make sure once you have your calendar you are writing EVERYTHING down on it. That way you won’t get any nasty surprises.

7. Have a running grocery list

If you find yourself forgetting things when you sit down to write your grocery list, try having a running list pinned to your fridge. That way every time someone uses the last of something they can just write it onto the list. Ran out of washing up liquid? Write it on the list. Used the last of the pasta? Write it onto the list.

8. Ask for help

There is no shame in admitting you’re not supermama. If you’re getting super stressed out, ask for help! Whether it’s from a family member or a friend or even another mama from your baby group, just ask. Odds are they’ll be happy to help out, and you could swap favours. ‘I’ll watch your kid for two hours tomorrow if you come round and help me run some errands.’

9. Get your kids to help

Even the smallest of little helpers can still do a job. If you’re folding laundry, get them to fold some tea towels. It doesn’t matter if the don’t fold it perfectly… it’s a tea towel… and it’s teaching them good habits.

10. Get a whiteboard

Whiteboards are super helpful for writing little reminders to the family. Is it someone’s birthday today? Make sure your hubby and kids know that they need to ring and wish them a Happy Birthday. It’s so much less stressful when you don’t feel like everything is on your shoulders.

11. Assign things to specific days

If there is something that is particularly stressing you out, assign it to a day so that you can work on it each week. For me, that’s finances. I can never keep track unless I sit down with my banking and bills every single week and pop it all into a chart. So for me, finance day is Sunday. By having it on a specific day, it means I’ll never forget it.

12. Get your bags packed

Make sure that every morning (or the night before would be even better – see point 2) you have all bags packed and ready to go by the front door. That means making sure that all homework, gym kits, lunches, water bottles, everything that you will need for the day’s activities are all there ready. This applies to the parents as well as the kiddos. Say goodbye to the days of scrambling around the house looking for the car keys when you’re in a rush.

13. Automate whatever you can

Consider having your bills set as recurring payments so that they come out of your account automatically on a specific day of the month. Try a meal planning service so that you don’t have to think about what to have for dinner. Whatever you can set to happen ‘on auto-pilot’ – do it. The less you have to remember and think about, the better.

14. Buy gifts online

As much as you may enjoy the process of going out and getting a gift from a shop, online ordering is the way to go if you want to save time. No driving to the shop, finding a parking space, looking for the item, queuing up to pay, driving back home, packing, driving to the post office and finally getting it delivered. And you avoid the risk of getting to the shop and them not having what you wanted. The internet has an unlimited choice of gift options, and services like funkypigeon.com make sending cards a breeze (P.S. totally not sponsored by Funky Pigeon!)

15. A place for everything and everything in its place

Making sure you are putting things back in their rightful place when you are done with them ensures things won’t get lost. Searching for misplaced items is quite possibly one of the biggest time-sucks known to mamas.

16. Group things together

Have all of your sports gear in one drawer, and all of your work documents in one folder, and all of the out-of-season clothes in one wardrobe. It will make it so much easier to get everything together when the time comes for it.

17. Place a basket on the stairs

Every time you see something downstairs that should be upstairs, pop it into your basket. Then when you next go up the stairs you can just take the basket with you and quickly put everything away in its rightful place while you’re up there.

18. If something takes less than 5 minutes, just do it now

Rather than noticing a job that needs doing and thinking ‘I’ll do it later’, ask yourself how long it would take to just get it done now. If the answer is less than five minutes, then guess what? You should just get it done now. Putting things off just means that they will build up, whereas if you spend that five minutes getting the job done, it’s out of your mind and you can move on to the next thing.

19. Bulk cook

When you make a meal, double the portion and put half of it into the freezer. That way, next time you are in a pinch and need a quick and easy meal, you can just whip it out and reheat it. The freezer is one of a homemaker’s best friends.

20. Use your slow cooker

Another of a homemaker’s best friends. The slow cooker is an awesome way to make fabulous home cooked meal with minimal effort. Just chop up the food in the morning (or the night before – see point 2 again haha), pop it into the slow cooker and let it do its thang for the rest of the day. When dinner time comes you won’t even have to think about it. Plus, it saves on the washing up as you’ll only have to do one big pot.

21. Plan once a week

Choose which day is going to be your ‘planning day’ and take the time to sit down and plan out your week. Figure out who is going to be doing what on what day, what needs to be prepared for each activity, and what your to-do list is going to look like. It may take a little bit of time once a week, but it will save you so much time in the long run.

22. Check that the kids actually want to do their activities

Has your child always played football at school? It might be worth checking if they are actually still into it. Often kids won’t say if they’ve grown bored of something, and it might be an activity that you can scratch off of the calendar. So just check in every now and again.

23. Delegate

Do you have a bit of extra cash laying around? Rather than splurging on a new pair of shoes (because you know you already have way too many) consider hiring a cleaner to give your home a once over, or someone to do your ironing. It’s one job off your to-do list, and you don’t have to face the guilt of owning yet another pair of ridiculously overpriced shoes.

24.  Figure out your emergency contacts

Who can you call when your child is sick and needs picking up from school? Who will happily pop round to watch the baby while you nip out to the shop? Try to set yourself up with a decent support system so that when curve balls are inevitably thrown your way, you don’t have to have a panic attack.

25. Wake up earlier

I know, I know. No one wants to hear this one. But getting up even half an hour earlier can make a world of difference. You’d be surprised how much you can get done with just a little bit of extra time, especially if that time is before your kids have woken up.

26. Get into a routine

Routines aren’t just for babies. We as adults thrive on a good routine. Figure out what works for you and your family and STICK TO IT. Eventually things will start to happen on auto-pilot, and you’ll be amazed at how much you are consistently getting done. Not sure how to develop a good routine for yourself? Check out my free live training – How to create a homemaking routine and stop wasting time.

27. Get things done while you wait

If you’re sat in the waiting room at the doctor’s surgery, or waiting in the playground for your child to come out of school, have something in your bag that you can be getting on with while you wait. Maybe it’s your smartphone so that you can be answering emails, or that book that you’ve been meaning to finish. Waiting time does not equal wasted time.

28. Get more sleep

This may sound counterproductive to spend MORE time sleeping, but think about it. If you are shattered and are zombie-walking around the house dragging your feet, you’re not going to get much done are you. Whereas if you’re super energised, you’ll be raring to go and be ultra-productive. Getting more sleep will save you a lot of time in the long run.

29. Step away from social media

Nothing sucks more time than sitting and scrolling on social media. If you’re the sort of person who can spend whole hours pinning things and liking things on Facebook, then I encourage you to try to wean yourself off. There are so many better things you can be doing with your time. Try putting all your social media apps into one folder, and only allowing yourself to access that folder at a specific time of the day, for example after lunch for 20 minutes. Once the 20 minutes is up commit to closing out of that folder and not revisiting it.

30. Set a timer for chores

I’m a great believer in setting a timer for 30 minutes and blasting through your chores. There’s something about being on a countdown that makes you get things done so much quicker, and you’d be amazed at how much you can get done in 30 minutes. Don’t think about it too much, just move swiftly from room to room tidying and doing whatever chores need doing. In 30 minutes I can usually get all rooms tidied, beds made, floors hoovered or swept, washing up done and surfaces wiped down. Competition is always a great motivation tool, and there’s no harm in being in competition with yourself to see how much you can get done!

Dear Stressed Out Mama

Dear Stressed Out Mama

DEAR STRESSED OUT MAMA…

I’ve totally been where you are today. You’ve got a million and one things to do, you’ve got pressure coming from all sides to be the best parent you can possibly be, and all you really want to do is curl up on the sofa with a tub of Ben & Jerry’s and Netflix. More than anything…

You want to actually ENJOY your family!

You’re completely over that crappy feeling at the end of each day, wondering where the hell all those hours disappeared to and why you didn’t seem to get a single thing done.

You’re tired of constantly feeling busy and like there’s no time to even… ya know… shower.

Yep, I hear you. It sucks.

It’s one of the hardest things in the world to adjust to life as a parent, despite what anyone tells you. For the first time in your life you are expected to be selfless. You’re expected to take on the duties of chef, nurse, clown, maid, personal dresser, bank, life coach…

And sometimes, whether we like to admit it or not, we can’t start to feel a pinch of resentment about the fact that we can’t go out with our friends on Friday night, and we can’t join that yoga class as it’s the same time as the kids’ dance showcase, and we can’t start that side hustle we’ve been thinking about because… when the heck are we meant to work on them?!

 

And on top of EVERYTHING else, the mama-guilt will sure enough creep in to make us feel awful for having these feelings in the first place. I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve curled up in the corner of my bedroom crying my eyes out, wondering why I’m not enjoying motherhood more. After all, it was what I had wanted for so long!

What I came to learn was that I do enjoy motherhood. I love it more than anything I’ve ever done before. But there are hard days, and sometimes those hard days can just get a little bit too overwhelming. We all need a good cry every now and again, and that’s okay.

The good news is, there is hope for the stressed out mama!

It is totally possible to stop feeling overwhelmed and start to actually ENJOY your family life.

Because you know what I believe?

I believe that coming home should be something to look forward to, not something to dread.

I believe that life is too damned short to be riddled with constant distractions and hopping from task to task with no real results.

I believe that kids are blessings, not burdens.

And I believe that ANYONE can live a chilled out, happy, successful life, no matter how many toddlers you have tugging at your ankles.

Yep, that means YOU!

But don’t get me wrong, I know family life can be tough sometimes.

Kids are messy

Tantrums are regular

Marriages can run into obstacles

Calendars get filled to breaking point

And sometimes you just don’t feel like adulting.

Yep, I feel ya.

So often I have found myself wondering where all my time goes. Between my day job, this blog and YouTube channel, a side hustle as a virtual assistant, raising my daughter, spending time with my husband, spending time with my family, trying to keep my house clean and trying to catch up with my friends once in a while, I would often get to the end of a day where I have been moving non-stop and wondered what I had actually gotten done.

Rather than feeling like I was moving towards my goals, I felt like I was in limbo, merely surviving the day-to-day. And yes, I know it comes with the territory of being a mother. And I know I was kind of asking for it when I decided to start two businesses at the same time as working my day job. But what I don’t want to do is feel like I am spending all day putting out fires, but not spending any time on the things that truly matter to me.

I want to snuggle with my daughter and husband. I want to pamper myself every now and again. I want to watch a few episodes of my favourite TV show without feeling guilty. And I’m betting that’s what you want too mama.

What we all need is… balance

Ahhh balance. That word gets thrown around a lot huh? It feels like some sort of mythical phenomenon that we all want but really it’s impossible to achieve. Or is it?

I’ve spent a whole heap of time researching time management, productivity and balance. I’ve had to, otherwise I would have ended up in the nut house a long time ago! And what I’ve discovered is that actually there IS such a thing as real balance, and every mama can achieve it if they really know how. Now I’m not telling you you’re going to be able to do all of the things and do them all to 100% of your ability. But if you can figure out what is really important in your life, what REALLY matters, then there are ways to make sure those priorities are looked after.

So with this said, I want to invite you to download my free Time Management Toolkit.

 

Through trial and error, and a whole heap of crying in the corner, I’ve discovered some key techniques that really help me to feel like I am THRIVING rather than just surviving. There are 3 basic principles: identify your priorities, set goals, and come up with some routines and hacks to ensure you day runs smoothly. That’s it. It sounds simple really doesn’t it?

That’s because it is. Once these techniques are in your system you’ll start to feel more in control of your day. No, you won’t be able to do it all. But you’ll be able to do the important stuff well, and that includes shooting for those big dreams that you think you just don’t have time to pursue.

This toolkit includes a video training on goal setting with accompanying workbook, a morning and evening routines workbook, prayer hacks for fitting prayer time into your busy schedule, cheat sheets for cleaning and self-care, and 3 beautiful motivational art prints to hang on your wall and remind you of your goals. And yes, I’m giving it away FOR FREE!!!

Join me as we push through the chaos and the stress, and start living lives that we truly love.

Making time for your priorities

Making time for your priorities

MAKING TIME FOR YOUR PRIORITIES

“I’m stretched too thin.”

“I have too much to do.”

“I am being pulled in a thousand different directions.”

“There’s no way I can get it all done.”

“My life is completely out of balance.”

These are all common complaints that I hear on a daily basis from the ladies I chat with. Being a mother is an intense job, and unlike other jobs, there’s no holiday and no days off.

It’s also one of the most demanding jobs in the world, with ridiculously high expectation from everyone, even people you don’t know! Somehow, we, as women of the modern world, are expected to be perfect mothers AND perfect wives AND look stunning at all hours of the day AND have a career AND have spotless houses. And what’s more, we’re meant to make it look easy.

Looking frazzled and stressed out at the supermarket is a sure-fire way to get raised eyebrows and whispers of “well, she obviously can’t handle it”.

The persistent pressure that we as modern homemakers are under can be enough to break us. There have been days where I have felt resentful towards my life and everything in it, because everything seems to have completely gotten on top of me.

So what’s a gal to do?

I have found that the best way to ensure my life is on track and not getting ‘too much’ is to really focus in on my priorities. And I mean LASER FOCUS… as in identifying what it is that’s the most important to you and your family, and saying “sayonara” to everything else.

It can be easy to want to do everything and achieve more, be more, do more. But we only have 24 hours in the day. And the only way we can be truly happy and content with our lives is if we ensure that those 24 hours are spent focusing on our priorities. Once those priorities are looked after, you’ll start to feel that amazing feeling… a sense of peace.

1. IDENTIFY YOUR PRIORITIES

Sit down (ideally with your partner) and write out your top 5 priorities. Ensuring you don’t add more than five means you won’t be ‘pulled in too many directions’. The less things you have to focus on, the more time you will be able to devote to each one.

For many homemakers our priorities may look very similar, but it’s important not to base this off of someone else’s life. Their priorities are not necessarily your priorities. You need to make sure you are looking at what is important for YOU and YOUR family.

Here are some ideas if you are stuck:

  • Your kids
  • Your partner
  • Your faith
  • Your home
  • Your business / career
  • Your hobbies
  • Your friends / social life
  • Your health
  • Your mental well-being

I would highly encourage you to include at least one ‘selfish’ priority on your list of five, like your health or your social life. It can be SO easy for mamas to feel guilty for spending time doing the things that they enjoy rather than doing the housework or playing with the kids, but it is super important. If we don’t look after ourselves, how the heck are we meant to look after everyone else?!

2. IDENTIFY YOUR NECESSITIES

There is a big difference between having to do something and feeling like you should  be doing something. We have to feed our kids. There’s no two ways about that. But something like growing all your own from scratch is optional. Of course it would be lovely to know that all our food comes from our own garden, and is therefore cheaper and free of any nasty chemicals. But is that really a necessity in your life? Could you get by simply by purchasing organic at the store?

The important thing to remember here is that just because you’re choosing not to do something right now, that doesn’t mean you won’t be able to one day. We go through seasons in life, and where you may not have time to grow your own garden right now, that’s not to say you won’t have time to do it later on in life, maybe once the kids are in school or can help out more.

So be honest with yourself and identify those things that you absolutely HAVE to do each day, no negotiations.

For me, these are:

  • Sleep
  • Feeding my family
  • Chores like washing the dishes and doing laundry
  • Personal hygiene
  • Going to work

I cannot live without any of these things. We need clean clothes to wear. We need clean dishes to eat off of. I need to go to work to earn a living.

Once you have identified your necessities, have a think about how much time you will spend each day on these things. Obviously sleep will take up the majority of your 24 hours. By doing this, you’re giving yourself an idea of how much time you have left over to focus on your priorities.

3. BLOCK OFF YOUR PRIORITIES

Now that you have an idea of how much time you have, you can start blocking off time for your priorities. I want you to physically write your priorities into whatever calendar system you use. I know it might feel strange writing ‘play with kids’ into your calendar, but having it actually scheduled in means you are far more likely to actually do it. It also means that if someone asks if you’re free on that particular day, you can see that you had already scheduled in time with your kids.

On that note, we need to make sure that when other things do crop up and invade our scheduled time, we ask ourselves the following question…

“Is this thing important enough to sacrifice my priorities?”

If the answer is no, then you can politely decline. Saying no to things is a skill that can be really difficult to get the knack of, but it is our most powerful tool as homemakers. Everything that’s got a space on your calendar needs to DESERVE to be there. If it’s not important to you or your family, then why are you spending time on it? Every time you say yes to something that’s not important, you are effectively saying no to the things that are important. And dat ain’t good!

SPEAKING OF PRIORITIES, I HAVE CREATED A TIME MANAGEMENT TOOLKIT THAT WILL HELP YOU TO PLAN YOUR DAY WITH YOUR PRIORITIES IN MIND!

The toolkit includes a video masterclass on goal setting, a morning and evening routines workbook, cleaning hacks and much more all delivered straight to your inbox, baby! It’ll walk you through how to do things like …

  • How to set goals and actually find the time to achieve them (BOOM!)
  • How to create a morning and evening routine that sets your day up for success
  • How to clean your house in ten minutes or less
  • How to fit prayer around your busy life
  • How to make time for self-care
7 Benefits Of Starting A Family Young

7 Benefits Of Starting A Family Young

7 BENEFITS OF STARTING A FAMILY YOUNG

Okay, before anyone gets up on their high horse, no I am not condoning teen pregnancy. I believe that before you have kids you should make sure that you are truly ready; that means being with the person you intend to spend the rest of your life with and being mentally prepared to let go of your freedom and love selflessly. HOWEVER… as a woman who got married and had a baby before I turned 21, I am constantly bombarded with questions of ‘why’. Why on earth would I do that? Why would I give up my younger years to start a family? Well, I’m here to tell you why.

Having babies young used to be the norm.

It was only about 30 years ago when the average age for having your first child was 21! But these days it is judged, even frowned upon. Women are encouraged to go out and live their lives first… get a career, go travelling, party, have fun while you still can! My issue with this is that it is implying that women with kids can’t have a career. It’s implying that families can’t travel. It’s implying that mamas can no longer have a drink with friends. and that having a family isn’t fun! Sure, there may be some restrictions once you start a family – obviously you’re not going to be falling out of a nightclub drunk as a skunk every Friday night, but then, is that such a bad thing? But besides the restrictions that you’ll have to learn to work around, there are SO many benefits to starting a family young. So if you are a young mama, read this, and then the next time someone shoots you a dirty look you can start reeling off the reasons why your decision was a GOOD one!

You will have so much more energy!

Motherhood is draining. The newborn days are filled with sleepless nights of feeding and burping and changing. The toddler days are filled with running after a small person who is stupidly quick for their size and picking up and endless trail of toys. And the child / teen days? Well, let’s just say I am mentally preparing myself to live on coffee.

At 22 years of age I am knackered, but then I think about what it would be like if I was doing all this ten or twenty years later like many women do these days. The thought of running after a toddler in my 40s? I’m getting tired just thinking about it!

Pulling an all-nighter is a lot easier when you are younger!

Do you ever hear of 40-year-olds partying into the early hours of the morning? No, because as we get older our bodies naturally rely on sleep more. When you are younger it is much easier to have a night of little to no sleep and still be able to function as a normal human being the following day. Those in their early 20s tend to be ‘night owls’, whereas as we get older we tend to lose that ability.

Our bodies are DESIGNED to have children young!

There is a reason that women who try to conceive later in life tend to struggle more than those in their twenties. Our peak baby-making years SCIENTIFICALLY are between 18 and 25 years of age. Once you pass this age your fertility will begin to decline. That’s how God designed us.

Despite modern medicine allowing us to continue having babies into our later years, you will likely still be faced with issues, and that’s not just with conception. Carrying a baby is your late 30s and beyond is significantly more risky. Sadly, miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, diabetes and high blood pressure are all more likely the older you are.

If you do run into fertility issues, you have more time.

Imagine the scene… you’ve waited to have kids. You’ve got your career ambitions and your partying days out of the way. You are finally ready to start trying for a baby in your late thirties. Then you struggle to conceive. In the back of your mind, you are going to be worried about that clock ticking.

Whereas, if you try for a baby at a young age and discover that you’re having issues getting pregnant, you have much more time to explore other options and keep trying. Infertility is incredibly stressful, but it would be a whole lot LESS stressful if you knew you had more time to get help.

Your parents will have longer-lasting relationships with their grandchildren!

If you are a young parent, then your parents are likely to be young grandparents. That means that instead of only having 20 years of enjoying their grandchildren, they might have 50. The same goes for the kids. They will know their grandparents for longer and will be able to hold onto many more memories.

My daughter is lucky enough to know her great-grandparents. My Nan is one of the most special people in the world to me. My grandfather walked me down the aisle! And to know that they have had a chance to watch my baby grow up into the little person that she is means so much to me.

YOU will be young grandparents.

Sticking with the grandparents theme… when your kids grow up and leave home and get married and have kids, Lord willing you will still be young enough to enjoy those grand-kids. Instead of being that granny who sits in a rocking chair and knits, you can be the cool Nan who takes them to water parks and rides bikes with them. How would you rather be remembered by the next generation?

You will have a longer and more vibrant life after kids.

If you have your kids in your early twenties, then by the time they are all out of the house you will only be in your early fourties. That gives you plenty of time to enjoy your newfound freedom. You can revisit a passionate marriage, take a once-in-a-lifetime round-the-world trip, participate in adrenaline activities, start a new business, the possibilities are endless. That’s not to say that you couldn’t do those things later on in life, but wouldn’t you rather do it when you don’t have the possibility of needing a hip replacement? I know I would.

 

Starting a family young is a big decision and shouldn’t be taken lightly, and for some women having babies later on in life is what’s right for them. But all I ask from those older women is to stop with the judgement and the looking down on younger mamas. Children are a blessing whatever age you are, and a woman in her twenties is just as likely to be a good mama as a woman in her thirties or forties. I’d love to hear from any young mamas out there! What blessings did you experience by making that decision?

WELL HEY THERE!

I'm Becca! I found myself flung into the world of changing nappies and trying (and failing) to run a home when I was just 20 years old. I started Homemakers In Action to help others out there who are struggling to find their inner domestic goddess.