WRITING YOUR BIRTH STORY: A HELPFUL GUIDE
Your baby’s birth is one of the most memorable days of your life, but it can often get lost in the fog of new mama days. Many women have contacted me and said that they would love to write a blog post about their birth, but they’re just not sure how to put such an amazing event into words.
Personally, I never did write my birth story on my blog, but what I did do is write it out in letter form for my daughter to read when she’s older. I wanted her to know exactly how I was feeling on the day she was born, and each and every magical detail of how she came into the world.
I didn’t have any sort of guidance when I wrote it, I just sort of let the words spill out of my head, but if you are feeling overwhelmed by the thought of writing your birth story, I think I’ve found a solution.
Pssst! If you’re interested in my birth story, you can WATCH it here!
In addition to my tips, I want to direct you to a really fabulous resource. I’ve been reading a blog lately called the Heather Brown Project, and she writes some really lovely articles about motherhood (I’ve also been binge listening to her podcast episodes, which has sadly ended now. Boo!)
She has created a worksheet that guides you through the process of writing your own birth story. It’s completely free to download and has some great tips. Go download the worksheet here!
1. GATHER ANY PICTURES OR MEMENTOS YOU CAN FIND
Maybe you saved the little bracelet that they put around baby’s ankle in the hospital, or their first outfit, or the blanket you wrapped them up in?
Lots of mothers swear by certain scents and smells taking them straight back to the delivery room – did you have aromatherapy oils or a specific lotion that your partner used to rub your back? Find as many sensory cues as you can to help relive that day. Of course, photographs are a perfect way to remember baby’s birth.
2. THINK OF AN ADJECTIVE TO DESCRIBE YOUR BIRTH
This will help to start your story. Think of one word that you would associate with your birth.
Was it scary, magical, confusing, a blur? Don’t judge yourself. Each and every story is different and unique, and there is no shame in saying that you were poo-in-your-pants petrified (sometimes literally!)
3. TRY TO REMAIN UNDISTURBED
I know, I know. Impossible to do with kids running around.
But try to pick a time when they are napping or at school, and make yourself comfortable. Brew your favourite hot beverage, snuggle up on the sofa with a blanket and your favourite notebook, and make sure the room is well lit.
Typically once you start writing your birth story you will start to get into the swing of it, and you don’t want to be brought out of the moment and is can be difficult to get back into it.
4. START WORKING THROUGH THE WORKSHEET
Heather’s worksheet will help to guide you step-by-step through the process of writing your story.
Filling out the worksheet will mean that your story will have more of a structure and make more sense, and if you find yourself stuck for ideas of what to write, it can help with inspiration too!
The worksheet asks questions like…
Who came to the hospital and what did they say?
What was your reaction when you first saw your baby?
What was the trip home like?
If you haven’t already downloaded it, you can do so here!
I’d be honoured if you shared your birth story with me, so if you’re feeling brave email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Don’t forget to include a picture!