30 Time Management Tips For The Busy Mama

30 Time Management Tips For The Busy Mama

30 TIME MANAGEMENT TIPS FOR BUSY MAMAS

Life with kids can be unpredictable, messy, chaotic and just a tad stressful.

Sometimes it feels like there is just too much to do, and not enough time to do it in. It’s a common issue, but believe it or not there are ways that we can feel much more calm and balanced in our homes.

A lot of the time we make our lives more difficult, by not opting for the easiest and quickest option.

Here I have listed 50 of the very best time management tips that I could find, that will help you to get more stuff done in less time, and stop living in a constant state of overwhelm.

1. Decide if something is really necessary

Quite often we add a whole heap of unimportant things to our to-do list. Maybe it’s something that we want to do, or we feel like we should do, but really it just doesn’t need to be there. It might be nice to think about baking a cake from scratch for your one-year-old’s birthday, but are they really going to appreciate it? Are you doing it because you love to bake and it’s one of your passions, or are you doing it to try to impress someone? It’s time to get real with yourself and only put things on your to-do list that really need to be there. There is zero shame in buying a cake from the supermarket.

2. Think ahead

What can you do the night before that will make tomorrow easier? Maybe you could have all lunch boxes packed, or outfits laid out, or breakfast in the crock pot? Thinking ahead and preparing makes the morning time so much easier and less stressful. Even if you just take a couple of moments to look at the calendar and think ‘Okay, what do I need to get ready for tomorrow?’ it will help. No more getting to school and forgetting it’s wear-your-own-clothes day!

3. Use a filing cabinet

You know all those random bits of paper lying around? Yeah… they’re not helping anyone. Make it a rule that when you get paperwork of any kind, it either gets dealt with straight away, binned or put into a filing cabinet. Divide the cabinet up by categories like ‘school’, ‘taxes’ and ‘bills’ so that you can easily find what you’re looking for. I’d also suggest taking a look online to see if anything can be done digitally. Many banks offer internet banking now, and you’d be surprised how many instruction manuals are available as PDFs. The less physical paper clutter you have, the better.

4. Pick your battles

If you spent 5 minutes complaining about every little thing your family did to annoy you, I bet it would add up pretty quickly. Make the decision to pick your battles and not let every little thing bother you. Okay, so there’s a pair of dirty socks on the floor. Picking them up and putting them in the laundry basket may be a little bit annoying, but it will take 2 seconds in comparison to the long conversation about responsibilities and cleanliness that you’ll end up having. Save those conversations for the major stuff.

5. Multi-task

When you’re focusing on an important project I always suggest not multi-tasking and just staying focused on that one thing. But there are certain tasks that we tend to do on autopilot that we can easily multi-task during. Driving to work? Listen to an educational podcast or an audiobook. Folding laundry? Watch an episode of your favourite TV show while you do it. Instead of spending half an hour folding laundry and then half an hour watching TV later on, you’re getting both done in half the time. And let’s face it, watching TV makes folding laundry way more fun anyway.

6. Use a family calendar

Even if you’re more of a digital person, I still recommend having a tangible calendar that you can hang up somewhere for all the family to see. I have mine hanging next to the coffee machine so that every morning when me and my husband are making our coffee, we can check it. I love the calendars that have different columns for each family member. It just feels so much easier to see what everyone has going on and where there are going to be any potential clashes. Make sure once you have your calendar you are writing EVERYTHING down on it. That way you won’t get any nasty surprises.

7. Have a running grocery list

If you find yourself forgetting things when you sit down to write your grocery list, try having a running list pinned to your fridge. That way every time someone uses the last of something they can just write it onto the list. Ran out of washing up liquid? Write it on the list. Used the last of the pasta? Write it onto the list.

8. Ask for help

There is no shame in admitting you’re not supermama. If you’re getting super stressed out, ask for help! Whether it’s from a family member or a friend or even another mama from your baby group, just ask. Odds are they’ll be happy to help out, and you could swap favours. ‘I’ll watch your kid for two hours tomorrow if you come round and help me run some errands.’

9. Get your kids to help

Even the smallest of little helpers can still do a job. If you’re folding laundry, get them to fold some tea towels. It doesn’t matter if the don’t fold it perfectly… it’s a tea towel… and it’s teaching them good habits.

10. Get a whiteboard

Whiteboards are super helpful for writing little reminders to the family. Is it someone’s birthday today? Make sure your hubby and kids know that they need to ring and wish them a Happy Birthday. It’s so much less stressful when you don’t feel like everything is on your shoulders.

11. Assign things to specific days

If there is something that is particularly stressing you out, assign it to a day so that you can work on it each week. For me, that’s finances. I can never keep track unless I sit down with my banking and bills every single week and pop it all into a chart. So for me, finance day is Sunday. By having it on a specific day, it means I’ll never forget it.

12. Get your bags packed

Make sure that every morning (or the night before would be even better – see point 2) you have all bags packed and ready to go by the front door. That means making sure that all homework, gym kits, lunches, water bottles, everything that you will need for the day’s activities are all there ready. This applies to the parents as well as the kiddos. Say goodbye to the days of scrambling around the house looking for the car keys when you’re in a rush.

13. Automate whatever you can

Consider having your bills set as recurring payments so that they come out of your account automatically on a specific day of the month. Try a meal planning service so that you don’t have to think about what to have for dinner. Whatever you can set to happen ‘on auto-pilot’ – do it. The less you have to remember and think about, the better.

14. Buy gifts online

As much as you may enjoy the process of going out and getting a gift from a shop, online ordering is the way to go if you want to save time. No driving to the shop, finding a parking space, looking for the item, queuing up to pay, driving back home, packing, driving to the post office and finally getting it delivered. And you avoid the risk of getting to the shop and them not having what you wanted. The internet has an unlimited choice of gift options, and services like funkypigeon.com make sending cards a breeze (P.S. totally not sponsored by Funky Pigeon!)

15. A place for everything and everything in its place

Making sure you are putting things back in their rightful place when you are done with them ensures things won’t get lost. Searching for misplaced items is quite possibly one of the biggest time-sucks known to mamas.

16. Group things together

Have all of your sports gear in one drawer, and all of your work documents in one folder, and all of the out-of-season clothes in one wardrobe. It will make it so much easier to get everything together when the time comes for it.

17. Place a basket on the stairs

Every time you see something downstairs that should be upstairs, pop it into your basket. Then when you next go up the stairs you can just take the basket with you and quickly put everything away in its rightful place while you’re up there.

18. If something takes less than 5 minutes, just do it now

Rather than noticing a job that needs doing and thinking ‘I’ll do it later’, ask yourself how long it would take to just get it done now. If the answer is less than five minutes, then guess what? You should just get it done now. Putting things off just means that they will build up, whereas if you spend that five minutes getting the job done, it’s out of your mind and you can move on to the next thing.

19. Bulk cook

When you make a meal, double the portion and put half of it into the freezer. That way, next time you are in a pinch and need a quick and easy meal, you can just whip it out and reheat it. The freezer is one of a homemaker’s best friends.

20. Use your slow cooker

Another of a homemaker’s best friends. The slow cooker is an awesome way to make fabulous home cooked meal with minimal effort. Just chop up the food in the morning (or the night before – see point 2 again haha), pop it into the slow cooker and let it do its thang for the rest of the day. When dinner time comes you won’t even have to think about it. Plus, it saves on the washing up as you’ll only have to do one big pot.

21. Plan once a week

Choose which day is going to be your ‘planning day’ and take the time to sit down and plan out your week. Figure out who is going to be doing what on what day, what needs to be prepared for each activity, and what your to-do list is going to look like. It may take a little bit of time once a week, but it will save you so much time in the long run.

22. Check that the kids actually want to do their activities

Has your child always played football at school? It might be worth checking if they are actually still into it. Often kids won’t say if they’ve grown bored of something, and it might be an activity that you can scratch off of the calendar. So just check in every now and again.

23. Delegate

Do you have a bit of extra cash laying around? Rather than splurging on a new pair of shoes (because you know you already have way too many) consider hiring a cleaner to give your home a once over, or someone to do your ironing. It’s one job off your to-do list, and you don’t have to face the guilt of owning yet another pair of ridiculously overpriced shoes.

24.  Figure out your emergency contacts

Who can you call when your child is sick and needs picking up from school? Who will happily pop round to watch the baby while you nip out to the shop? Try to set yourself up with a decent support system so that when curve balls are inevitably thrown your way, you don’t have to have a panic attack.

25. Wake up earlier

I know, I know. No one wants to hear this one. But getting up even half an hour earlier can make a world of difference. You’d be surprised how much you can get done with just a little bit of extra time, especially if that time is before your kids have woken up.

26. Get into a routine

Routines aren’t just for babies. We as adults thrive on a good routine. Figure out what works for you and your family and STICK TO IT. Eventually things will start to happen on auto-pilot, and you’ll be amazed at how much you are consistently getting done. Not sure how to develop a good routine for yourself? Check out my free live training – How to create a homemaking routine and stop wasting time.

27. Get things done while you wait

If you’re sat in the waiting room at the doctor’s surgery, or waiting in the playground for your child to come out of school, have something in your bag that you can be getting on with while you wait. Maybe it’s your smartphone so that you can be answering emails, or that book that you’ve been meaning to finish. Waiting time does not equal wasted time.

28. Get more sleep

This may sound counterproductive to spend MORE time sleeping, but think about it. If you are shattered and are zombie-walking around the house dragging your feet, you’re not going to get much done are you. Whereas if you’re super energised, you’ll be raring to go and be ultra-productive. Getting more sleep will save you a lot of time in the long run.

29. Step away from social media

Nothing sucks more time than sitting and scrolling on social media. If you’re the sort of person who can spend whole hours pinning things and liking things on Facebook, then I encourage you to try to wean yourself off. There are so many better things you can be doing with your time. Try putting all your social media apps into one folder, and only allowing yourself to access that folder at a specific time of the day, for example after lunch for 20 minutes. Once the 20 minutes is up commit to closing out of that folder and not revisiting it.

30. Set a timer for chores

I’m a great believer in setting a timer for 30 minutes and blasting through your chores. There’s something about being on a countdown that makes you get things done so much quicker, and you’d be amazed at how much you can get done in 30 minutes. Don’t think about it too much, just move swiftly from room to room tidying and doing whatever chores need doing. In 30 minutes I can usually get all rooms tidied, beds made, floors hoovered or swept, washing up done and surfaces wiped down. Competition is always a great motivation tool, and there’s no harm in being in competition with yourself to see how much you can get done!

Dear Stressed Out Mama

Dear Stressed Out Mama

DEAR STRESSED OUT MAMA…

I’ve totally been where you are today. You’ve got a million and one things to do, you’ve got pressure coming from all sides to be the best parent you can possibly be, and all you really want to do is curl up on the sofa with a tub of Ben & Jerry’s and Netflix. More than anything…

You want to actually ENJOY your family!

You’re completely over that crappy feeling at the end of each day, wondering where the hell all those hours disappeared to and why you didn’t seem to get a single thing done.

You’re tired of constantly feeling busy and like there’s no time to even… ya know… shower.

Yep, I hear you. It sucks.

It’s one of the hardest things in the world to adjust to life as a parent, despite what anyone tells you. For the first time in your life you are expected to be selfless. You’re expected to take on the duties of chef, nurse, clown, maid, personal dresser, bank, life coach…

And sometimes, whether we like to admit it or not, we can’t start to feel a pinch of resentment about the fact that we can’t go out with our friends on Friday night, and we can’t join that yoga class as it’s the same time as the kids’ dance showcase, and we can’t start that side hustle we’ve been thinking about because… when the heck are we meant to work on them?!

 

And on top of EVERYTHING else, the mama-guilt will sure enough creep in to make us feel awful for having these feelings in the first place. I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve curled up in the corner of my bedroom crying my eyes out, wondering why I’m not enjoying motherhood more. After all, it was what I had wanted for so long!

What I came to learn was that I do enjoy motherhood. I love it more than anything I’ve ever done before. But there are hard days, and sometimes those hard days can just get a little bit too overwhelming. We all need a good cry every now and again, and that’s okay.

The good news is, there is hope for the stressed out mama!

It is totally possible to stop feeling overwhelmed and start to actually ENJOY your family life.

Because you know what I believe?

I believe that coming home should be something to look forward to, not something to dread.

I believe that life is too damned short to be riddled with constant distractions and hopping from task to task with no real results.

I believe that kids are blessings, not burdens.

And I believe that ANYONE can live a chilled out, happy, successful life, no matter how many toddlers you have tugging at your ankles.

Yep, that means YOU!

But don’t get me wrong, I know family life can be tough sometimes.

Kids are messy

Tantrums are regular

Marriages can run into obstacles

Calendars get filled to breaking point

And sometimes you just don’t feel like adulting.

Yep, I feel ya.

So often I have found myself wondering where all my time goes. Between my day job, this blog and YouTube channel, a side hustle as a virtual assistant, raising my daughter, spending time with my husband, spending time with my family, trying to keep my house clean and trying to catch up with my friends once in a while, I would often get to the end of a day where I have been moving non-stop and wondered what I had actually gotten done.

Rather than feeling like I was moving towards my goals, I felt like I was in limbo, merely surviving the day-to-day. And yes, I know it comes with the territory of being a mother. And I know I was kind of asking for it when I decided to start two businesses at the same time as working my day job. But what I don’t want to do is feel like I am spending all day putting out fires, but not spending any time on the things that truly matter to me.

I want to snuggle with my daughter and husband. I want to pamper myself every now and again. I want to watch a few episodes of my favourite TV show without feeling guilty. And I’m betting that’s what you want too mama.

What we all need is… balance

Ahhh balance. That word gets thrown around a lot huh? It feels like some sort of mythical phenomenon that we all want but really it’s impossible to achieve. Or is it?

I’ve spent a whole heap of time researching time management, productivity and balance. I’ve had to, otherwise I would have ended up in the nut house a long time ago! And what I’ve discovered is that actually there IS such a thing as real balance, and every mama can achieve it if they really know how. Now I’m not telling you you’re going to be able to do all of the things and do them all to 100% of your ability. But if you can figure out what is really important in your life, what REALLY matters, then there are ways to make sure those priorities are looked after.

So with this said, I want to invite you to download my free Time Management Toolkit.

 

Through trial and error, and a whole heap of crying in the corner, I’ve discovered some key techniques that really help me to feel like I am THRIVING rather than just surviving. There are 3 basic principles: identify your priorities, set goals, and come up with some routines and hacks to ensure you day runs smoothly. That’s it. It sounds simple really doesn’t it?

That’s because it is. Once these techniques are in your system you’ll start to feel more in control of your day. No, you won’t be able to do it all. But you’ll be able to do the important stuff well, and that includes shooting for those big dreams that you think you just don’t have time to pursue.

This toolkit includes a video training on goal setting with accompanying workbook, a morning and evening routines workbook, prayer hacks for fitting prayer time into your busy schedule, cheat sheets for cleaning and self-care, and 3 beautiful motivational art prints to hang on your wall and remind you of your goals. And yes, I’m giving it away FOR FREE!!!

Join me as we push through the chaos and the stress, and start living lives that we truly love.

Making time for your priorities

Making time for your priorities

MAKING TIME FOR YOUR PRIORITIES

“I’m stretched too thin.”

“I have too much to do.”

“I am being pulled in a thousand different directions.”

“There’s no way I can get it all done.”

“My life is completely out of balance.”

These are all common complaints that I hear on a daily basis from the ladies I chat with. Being a mother is an intense job, and unlike other jobs, there’s no holiday and no days off.

It’s also one of the most demanding jobs in the world, with ridiculously high expectation from everyone, even people you don’t know! Somehow, we, as women of the modern world, are expected to be perfect mothers AND perfect wives AND look stunning at all hours of the day AND have a career AND have spotless houses. And what’s more, we’re meant to make it look easy.

Looking frazzled and stressed out at the supermarket is a sure-fire way to get raised eyebrows and whispers of “well, she obviously can’t handle it”.

The persistent pressure that we as modern homemakers are under can be enough to break us. There have been days where I have felt resentful towards my life and everything in it, because everything seems to have completely gotten on top of me.

So what’s a gal to do?

I have found that the best way to ensure my life is on track and not getting ‘too much’ is to really focus in on my priorities. And I mean LASER FOCUS… as in identifying what it is that’s the most important to you and your family, and saying “sayonara” to everything else.

It can be easy to want to do everything and achieve more, be more, do more. But we only have 24 hours in the day. And the only way we can be truly happy and content with our lives is if we ensure that those 24 hours are spent focusing on our priorities. Once those priorities are looked after, you’ll start to feel that amazing feeling… a sense of peace.

1. IDENTIFY YOUR PRIORITIES

Sit down (ideally with your partner) and write out your top 5 priorities. Ensuring you don’t add more than five means you won’t be ‘pulled in too many directions’. The less things you have to focus on, the more time you will be able to devote to each one.

For many homemakers our priorities may look very similar, but it’s important not to base this off of someone else’s life. Their priorities are not necessarily your priorities. You need to make sure you are looking at what is important for YOU and YOUR family.

Here are some ideas if you are stuck:

  • Your kids
  • Your partner
  • Your faith
  • Your home
  • Your business / career
  • Your hobbies
  • Your friends / social life
  • Your health
  • Your mental well-being

I would highly encourage you to include at least one ‘selfish’ priority on your list of five, like your health or your social life. It can be SO easy for mamas to feel guilty for spending time doing the things that they enjoy rather than doing the housework or playing with the kids, but it is super important. If we don’t look after ourselves, how the heck are we meant to look after everyone else?!

2. IDENTIFY YOUR NECESSITIES

There is a big difference between having to do something and feeling like you should  be doing something. We have to feed our kids. There’s no two ways about that. But something like growing all your own from scratch is optional. Of course it would be lovely to know that all our food comes from our own garden, and is therefore cheaper and free of any nasty chemicals. But is that really a necessity in your life? Could you get by simply by purchasing organic at the store?

The important thing to remember here is that just because you’re choosing not to do something right now, that doesn’t mean you won’t be able to one day. We go through seasons in life, and where you may not have time to grow your own garden right now, that’s not to say you won’t have time to do it later on in life, maybe once the kids are in school or can help out more.

So be honest with yourself and identify those things that you absolutely HAVE to do each day, no negotiations.

For me, these are:

  • Sleep
  • Feeding my family
  • Chores like washing the dishes and doing laundry
  • Personal hygiene
  • Going to work

I cannot live without any of these things. We need clean clothes to wear. We need clean dishes to eat off of. I need to go to work to earn a living.

Once you have identified your necessities, have a think about how much time you will spend each day on these things. Obviously sleep will take up the majority of your 24 hours. By doing this, you’re giving yourself an idea of how much time you have left over to focus on your priorities.

3. BLOCK OFF YOUR PRIORITIES

Now that you have an idea of how much time you have, you can start blocking off time for your priorities. I want you to physically write your priorities into whatever calendar system you use. I know it might feel strange writing ‘play with kids’ into your calendar, but having it actually scheduled in means you are far more likely to actually do it. It also means that if someone asks if you’re free on that particular day, you can see that you had already scheduled in time with your kids.

On that note, we need to make sure that when other things do crop up and invade our scheduled time, we ask ourselves the following question…

“Is this thing important enough to sacrifice my priorities?”

If the answer is no, then you can politely decline. Saying no to things is a skill that can be really difficult to get the knack of, but it is our most powerful tool as homemakers. Everything that’s got a space on your calendar needs to DESERVE to be there. If it’s not important to you or your family, then why are you spending time on it? Every time you say yes to something that’s not important, you are effectively saying no to the things that are important. And dat ain’t good!

SPEAKING OF PRIORITIES, I HAVE CREATED A TIME MANAGEMENT TOOLKIT THAT WILL HELP YOU TO PLAN YOUR DAY WITH YOUR PRIORITIES IN MIND!

The toolkit includes a video masterclass on goal setting, a morning and evening routines workbook, cleaning hacks and much more all delivered straight to your inbox, baby! It’ll walk you through how to do things like …

  • How to set goals and actually find the time to achieve them (BOOM!)
  • How to create a morning and evening routine that sets your day up for success
  • How to clean your house in ten minutes or less
  • How to fit prayer around your busy life
  • How to make time for self-care
The Art and Science of Homemaking

The Art and Science of Homemaking

THE ART & SCIENCE OF HOMEMAKING

By contributing writer Laura Adams (Homemaking For His Glory)

Homemaking is the process of making your home a place of joy and rest. Tasks associated with homemaking can be grouped into two major categories: the art and the science.

The art of homemaking has to do with setting the atmosphere or the tone of your home. When someone enters the door of your home, they should sense that this is a place of joy and rest. Visitors should feel welcome, and those who live there should look forward to coming home.

The science of homemaking has to do with more concrete tasks. It includes things like managing your home, cooking, and cleaning. All of those things are good, but a perfectly clean home with the healthiest meals can still feel sterile and cold if the art of homemaking is not present.

CULTIVATING THE ART OF HOMEMAKING

Check your heart.

Are you frustrated when your toddler destroys the room that you just cleaned? To a certain extent, that’s a normal reaction. However, I am always reminding myself that the relationship is more important than the state of my house. If I’m getting impatient with my son, that’s wrong. I don’t want him to feel as if he grew up in a perfectly curated museum instead of in a home.

 

“Better is a dish of vegetables where love is than a fattened ox served with hatred.”

PROVERBS 15:17

Yes, the science of homemaking is important, but if we are task oriented to the point of losing focus on why we are serving our families, that is a problem. Ultimately, I perform my homemaking tasks as an expression of love for my family. I want to cultivate a comfortable environment. Homemaking is serving and loving, not striving to impress people.

Make it lovely.

I’ll be the first to admit that I’m the furthest thing from an interior designer. Every piece of home decor I own was either a gift or a wedding decoration that I re-purposed. Making your house look more homey doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive. Just hanging a family photo adds some warmth!

CULTIVATING THE SCIENCE OF HOMEMAKING

A note about newborns: If you have a newborn, I would recommend picking one household task that does not involve keeping yourself and your child alive per day. Just don’t even try to do everything. Live off of your freezer meals. Buy paper plates. Take naps if you can. If you have help, that’s great. I didn’t have help other than from my husband, and I wish I had just given myself more grace in that season. My husband did a lot of dishes and laundry then, and that was 100% fine. No guilt.

Choose your priorities.

You can’t do it all, so you have to choose which things are most important. For example, we really try to avoid eating out. To make that happen, I keep freezer meals on hand that can be prepared quickly. One of our easy meals is frozen tilapia fillets with green beans. I can prepare it in about 15 minutes, even if I haven’t thawed the fillets beforehand. I put the tilapia on the George Foreman grill, sprinkle it with a bit of lemon pepper seasoning, and allow it to cook. Meanwhile, the green beans are cooking on the stove top. Instant brown rice is another good staple to have on hand.

Your priorities for your homemaking may vary based on your circumstances. I do a lot of cooking from scratch, but I only have one child and he is not in any extra-curricular activities right now. If I drove all over town taking older kids to sports practices every night, I wouldn’t have the time to cook elaborate dinners. Priorities can shift as time goes on, and that’s completely okay.

Maybe you really want your husband to come home to a picked up living room. Once your children are old enough, have them help you pick up toys for five minutes every afternoon. Whatever your priorities are, decide on some actionable steps to take each day to make them a reality.

Implement a realistic cleaning routine.

In my nearly two years as a homemaker, the most critical thing that I have learned is the power of a consistent routine. If I clean “whenever I get to it,” then “whenever I get to it” never comes. Then I have a scary looking shower that takes far longer to clean than it would have if I had just dealt with it right away.

My house is never going to be 100% perfect, but it should be functional. Each day, I make the bed, do the dishes, run one load of laundry, and make sure the bathroom counters are clear. I try to clean the bathrooms once a week, mop the kitchen once a week, and meal plan once a week.

When I started trying to implement a cleaning routine, I only tackled one new habit at a time. If I had tried to do everything at once, it would’ve been too overwhelming. Just take it one step at a time.

^^ If you need more help with choosing your priorities and figuring out a routine, check out Becca’s Time Management Toolkit! ^^

Laura Adams

Laura Adams

Contributing Writer

My name is Laura and I love my family, good books, and good coffee. Right now I’m in a season of homemaking. 1st Corinthians 10:31 says “Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.” Thus, this blog is titled Homemaking for His Glory. My desire is to bring glory to Him in all things, even the seemingly mundane. I hope my blog is a blessing to you!

Writing Your Birth Story: A Helpful Guide

Writing Your Birth Story: A Helpful Guide

WRITING YOUR BIRTH STORY: A HELPFUL GUIDE

Your baby’s birth is one of the most memorable days of your life, but it can often get lost in the fog of new mama days. Many women have contacted me and said that they would love to write a blog post about their birth, but they’re just not sure how to put such an amazing event into words.

Personally, I never did write my birth story on my blog, but what I did do is write it out in letter form for my daughter to read when she’s older. I wanted her to know exactly how I was feeling on the day she was born, and each and every magical detail of how she came into the world.

I didn’t have any sort of guidance when I wrote it, I just sort of let the words spill out of my head, but if you are feeling overwhelmed by the thought of writing your birth story, I think I’ve found a solution.

Pssst! If you’re interested in my birth story, you can WATCH it here

In addition to my tips, I want to direct you to a really fabulous resource. I’ve been reading a blog lately called the Heather Brown Project, and she writes some really lovely articles about motherhood (I’ve also been binge listening to her podcast episodes, which has sadly ended now. Boo!)

She has created a worksheet that guides you through the process of writing your own birth story. It’s completely free to download and has some great tips. Go download the worksheet here!

1. GATHER ANY PICTURES OR MEMENTOS YOU CAN FIND

Maybe you saved the little bracelet that they put around baby’s ankle in the hospital, or their first outfit, or the blanket you wrapped them up in?

Lots of mothers swear by certain scents and smells taking them straight back to the delivery room – did you have aromatherapy oils or a specific lotion that your partner used to rub your back? Find as many sensory cues as you can to help relive that day. Of course, photographs are a perfect way to remember baby’s birth.

2. THINK OF AN ADJECTIVE TO DESCRIBE YOUR BIRTH

This will help to start your story. Think of one word that you would associate with your birth.

Was it scary, magical, confusing, a blur? Don’t judge yourself. Each and every story is different and unique, and there is no shame in saying that you were poo-in-your-pants petrified (sometimes literally!)

 

3. TRY TO REMAIN UNDISTURBED

I know, I know. Impossible to do with kids running around.

But try to pick a time when they are napping or at school, and make yourself comfortable. Brew your favourite hot beverage, snuggle up on the sofa with a blanket and your favourite notebook, and make sure the room is well lit.

Typically once you start writing your birth story you will start to get into the swing of it, and you don’t want to be brought out of the moment and is can be difficult to get back into it.

4. START WORKING THROUGH THE WORKSHEET

Heather’s worksheet will help to guide you step-by-step through the process of writing your story.

Filling out the worksheet will mean that your story will have more of a structure and make more sense, and if you find yourself stuck for ideas of what to write, it can help with inspiration too!

The worksheet asks questions like…

Who came to the hospital and what did they say?

What was your reaction when you first saw your baby?

What was the trip home like?

If you haven’t already downloaded it, you can do so here!

I’d be honoured if you shared your birth story with me, so if you’re feeling brave email me at becca@homemakersinaction.com. Don’t forget to include a picture!